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[Jackie_D]

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Trenton? So long as he never, ever plans to visit New Jersey...

That's silly. If he visited Trenton no one would probably even say anything and if they did I highly doubt they would be mean about it. My daughter's name is Savanna. Does that mean she can't visit Savannah, GA?

 

[CritterHill]

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Trenton? So long as he never, ever plans to visit New Jersey...

That's silly. If he visited Trenton no one would probably even say anything and if they did I highly doubt they would be mean about it. My daughter's name is Savanna. Does that mean she can't visit Savannah, GA?

Sorry, as a native New Jerseyan, I was poking a little fun at Trenton.

Let's see, how can I put this tactfully... Um, it's not as bad as Camden?

I've seen some really questionable neighborhoods in that city... Not to smear the Trentonians as I'm sure there are nice parts, but there is a certain "armpit of NJ" aspect to a significant quantity of Trenton.

 

[Jackie_D]

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That's silly. If he visited Trenton no one would probably even say anything and if they did I highly doubt they would be mean about it. My daughter's name is Savanna. Does that mean she can't visit Savannah, GA?

Sorry, as a native New Jerseyan, I was poking a little fun at Trenton.

Let's see, how can I put this tactfully... Um, it's not as bad as Camden?

I've seen some really questionable neighborhoods in that city... Not to smear the Trentonians as I'm sure there are nice parts, but there is a certain "armpit of NJ" aspect to a significant quantity of Trenton.

oh, sorry, I misunderstood. I've never been to Trenton myself (or anywhere in NJ actually). I do think it's a cute name, not my style though.

 

[spook]

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Oh you should look into home births. It's amazing. The pain level seems to be cut in half for most of the women. I suppose it's because they stay in natural positions and it's quiet and calming. They aren't treated like they are sick, or in an emergency medical situation. It's amazing. I've never done it, but only because I'm considered high risk and no midwife will take me, but I sure wanted to with my first. Back then there wasn't any midwives to be found around here. Watch "The Business of Being Born", some parts I don't agree with, but there are some great tastefully filmed home births there. You can also see alot of home births on youtube watch those and compare them to the hospital births that are posted on there.

***Warning**** Those videos I'm talking about are very graphic and may not be appropriate for younger BYCer's, ask Mom first.

Yes, I am sorry about that sounding closed minded. I have seen deliveries in the hospital, several different ways. But my thought is when something goes wrong, you can loose mom and baby. (Not to add fear to anyone) but I did see one of my class mates die in child birth. She was in the hospital and threw a clot. This does happen when a baby is born, not a lot, but it does happen, being in the hospital made no difference, but happening at home would cause family and midwife to harbor guilt and a lifetime of questions.
Here in Maine, there are many different styles of midwife/hospital births now. Doctors working along side with the midwife if issues should arise.
Each baby is different, each pregnancy is different, being educated on all the different avenues that are the pro's and con's is the best way to be prepared.
To each their own- I did not mean to poo poo the many choices that women should look at. (I also know a family that had their 4 children at home, all went super and now the kids are all grown). Good luck to all that are making these choices (I believe in drugs, lol!)

 

[GwenFarms]

Midwives are trained to handle emergencies these days. The mortality rate is actually much higher in hospital births vs. alternative medicines. Alot of research lately seems to say it's due to the increased number of c sections.

I'm very sorry about your friend. Unfortunately nothing can be done with clots at home, or in the hospital. It's a really sad story. I've known of this happening to someone after surgery, myself, too. I hope her baby is fine.

I actually almost lost my daughter due to too much medicine. She is permantly disabled after her cord was hit during an amnio. We both almost bled to death, but her situation was much more dire. All of my children ended up being born via c section, instead of naturally, because of too much medicine. My first was shown to be 13 lbs on u/s right before birth...he was born only weighing 9. The dr would not risk him possibly being injured since he was "so big". I went into labor with my second and when they made me lay down and be strapped to monitors my labor soon stopped. He turned over night and was all wrapped in the cord, they ended up having to deliver him via c/s to save him. Then my 3rd, as I've already said had to be delivered by emergency c/s. The one we are now having will have to be delivered by c/s due to all of the previous c/s. It's pretty sad for someone who had wanted to have home births, but thats the way it goes. The fact is that OB's are surgeons. Most have never seen a true natural birth. I think everyone is thankful they are there when neccesary, but they are only truly needed in a handful of births.

 

[vicki2x2]

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I agree!! Both of my oldest two were born at home with midwives and it was amazing!! Incidently, my youngest two were born in hospitals on the other side of the world, and then were adopted by us when they were toddlers. I then worked for our midwives for two years as their office manager. A lot of my time was spent organizing all their records. Midwives are trained for several years and deal strictly with the whole pregnancy and birthing process. While Dr.'s train longer, they have to learn about the entire body, diseases, illnesses, etc. At the time, my midwives had attended 600 births and had never lost a baby or a mother. If they thought their would be complications, they transported to the hospital.

They also spent an hour at each appointment with the mother and encouraged the father to attend also. Each visit included getting to know each other and hugs at the end, so by the time your baby was born, you were completely comfortable with them. According to the midwives, many times a mother's failure to progress is due to nerves, feeling uncomfortable with what is going on, etc. They said many times labor is dragging on for hours or days and finally the MIL or whoever leaves and boom, the baby is born within an hour!

 

[Robin'sBrood]

I delivered my fourth at home with a midwife and an RN. The main reason was because we didn't have maternity insurance at the time and I couldn't see forking over 10K for something that is natural and women have been doing for centuries (both my parents were born at home.) And since I was not a first time mom, knew what to expect, had already delivered one child with no pain meds, we decided to go for it. My midwife told us right up front that if she felt we were in any danger, she would call 911 immediately so I felt safe in her care.

I labored while watching the movie Cast Away. Almost as soon as the movie was over, my labor got pretty intense so I moved to an aquadoula tub that was set up in my bedroom (amazing!) and then delivered on our bed, which was already prepped and ready to go. We did have some minor gliches with the birth, but nothing that my midwife wasn't prepared to handle. Almost 7 years later, my little girl is a very happy & healthy child and I have no regrets about doing it.

 

[Crunchie]

I have to agree with the homebirth/natural birth route. 110%. Watch some videos of waterbirth, it is very empowering...

I chose to drive 1 1/2 hours (in full-on labor!!) to meet my midwives and give birth (well, attempt to give birth) at a free-standing birth center. Going to the hospital unless there was something wrong was never an option for me. The main reason I didn't try to give birth at home was because if something did go wrong, I didn't trust our local hospital. The back-up hospital for the birth center was a much better hospital with a level-III NICU, etc., so I felt it was a better place to be close to in the event of, god forbid, an emergency. I labored naturally for a long time (actually I was 7 cm by the time I even got to the birth center), many hours in water. Unfortunately, no matter how hard we tried, my son wouldn't budge. I walked, lunged, etc., but--no baby. 24 hours after I went into labor we finally had to go in for a c-section. It was very disappointing, but all was well and as far as unplanned c-sections go, it was uneventful. Still don't know why I couldn't give birth naturally, though a likely theory is that it is due to my pelvis being horribly twisted--a lovely reminder of the many falls I have had from horseback!!

Poor babe literally couldn't find his way through!

Anyway, while laboring in the car was no fun, I am very convinced that I could have given birth drug-free (if the little booger would've moved!!). It was very intense, but it was bearable. It would have been a different story if I had went into it unprepared, though. Research!!! There's a lot of good info out there. We took a Bradley class, that was a great help. I recommend that anyone who is pregnant or planning on becoming pregnant do a lot of research on both hospital (medicated; it happens, but you are very unlikely to give birth in a hospital naturally, no matter what you set out to do), birth center, and homebirths. Research the c-section rates at your chosen hospital, if you are going to one--the national rate is something like 30%. That's absurd. Yes, c-sections are sometimes necessary, and thank god we have that available to us in emergency cases. But the truth is, they are dangerous if they are not necessary, and a good deal of them are not needed.

I really like www.mothering.com/discussions the forums there are chock-full of natural birth nuts!!

Really, it is a great place to get info.

If we have another I don't know what I'll do. I can birth with my midwives at the hospital I ended up having my c-section at (they have privileges there), but I still don't know if I want to go to the hospital. I will probably either a) not have another child (likely) or b) try for a VBAC at home.

 

[bamagirl68]

I like H names. My son is named William Hunter. One tip-never name him with the same first name as his dad. Swap it up. It gets confusing as heck in paperwork and with insurance companies! My grandaddy had 3 first names-William Ira Sanders ________. That must have been confusing! Good luck with your new bundle of joy!

 

[msrma7670]

OK! My husband finally got off the computer so I can respond. He has a serious BYC addiction problem!

Most of the posts on here have been him not me==he will impersonate me. I will be 38 weeks preg. on Tuesday, june 10. He had better come soon!

We are not doing a home birth, at least not planned. I think it would be interesting to do one, but --oh well. My husband is a nurse who works on a different floor in the same hospital that I am delivering at. Depending on who the Dr. is he may ask to deliver the baby. My bag is fully packed and includes a camera and a full list of name that came off this feed. We have enjoyed reading this thread. Shortly after the baby is born I am sure he will be online posting picture.

P.S. my eggs in the bator are starting to pip. Boy are we going to be busy!!