Is that both front and back?
That is an incredibly cool headstone. My deepest sympathies for your loss.
That is an incredibly cool headstone. My deepest sympathies for your loss.
My son's head stone
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It is a beautiful stone. My sincere condolences for your loss!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
- May 11, 2010
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Beautiful tribute to a wonderful person. Very sorry he had to go.
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you know there are not a lot of people in this world that actual meant what they say my son would ask how you are most are being polite but my son really wanted to know. one guy I talked to I think it was the girl that was his first friend on the block her father he said if you were raking leaves he would say if you have another rake I will help you and he would rake leaves with you, the girl across from my folks house she had a dog just loved David they got to where the dog would wait till David got across the street before it would go nuts and if you said "David" the dog would go nuts. We had a memorial for him and 91 people came maybe this doesn't sound like a lot but in David getting around I was thinking have of Levittown was going to be there. He lived with my father and yes my father died of cause from the fire 5 days later he didn't have the out come David did. My sister with hearing everyone talking of how good David was she said she wouldn't be surprised that the obama would be landing in our front yard (the house that burned up that is) I said OH NO hoping that doesn't happen all we need but the people told of how it was to be around David and watching him as he cut grass he would have his shirt off and he had a big belly he be sweating but still anyone he saw he would yell hello to but at the pool he never took the shirt off a neighbor couldn't understand that.
The fire was so bad it came up into the room I used when I came for a visit, the fire came up through it and the bed was hanging through the ceiling everything had smoke damage and heat damage but we found some pictures yet that were good and paper work that the fire didn't touch most was heat and smoke damage, we are not sure how my father got to the side door a neighbor ran across and got my father but was not able to get David the heat was so bad they had to get it under control I talked to the fire company well one of them and he said David was gone they had burned their lungs David was found in the upstairs bathroom we now thing that David and my father was talking or more they were yelling back and forth to eat other I had told David if their was a fire to break the window and go out on the roof it was at the window and then see if he can find dad, the only thing we think David didn't do this is that dad was telling him to go to the bathroom and he couldn't find anything to break the window with OR dad told him the get into the bath tub and wait for the fire dept. dad was walking to the door and still was telling to David but stopped because he was waiting for David to reply but David was gone but we don't know how long dad might of been standing there.
dad was on life support the first day we are sure his subconscious was alert because he heard me and my sister but not David and it was wondering where David was he was like a hoppy toad wiggling around but in the days to follow he didn't move any more. We were waiting to see if dad would come to and we were having to put David in the ground. The doctors said a couple more days but once I talked to a fire fighter that was there I knew dad wasn't coming to. They say eve though a person is unconscious they can still here you. So I told my sister you have to release them so I told dad it is ok to go if you need to you don't have to stay everything is ok and we will take care of everything if you want to stay it is ok to we will do what eve it is to make you happy, I still didn't tell him of David my sister thought if we told him and he could get better that this would make it so he didn't my father depended on David 100 percent dad could walk and all not a long way but David went with him every where he went he wanted to make sure dad was ok once my mother died in 2008 David had the fear dad was going to be dead one day he came back from swimming or somewhere so he stuck to dad a lot. in the last moths well about a year ago we found out David was diabetic the first time David was very sick and he wanted to call the squad but dad wanted him to wait a few more days but he called me I said call the squad I will handle dad he sugar was up to 600 I looked on the web and it said he could go in comma if up to 600.
So the second time he call me I heard dad in the background telling him something I told him to call the squad and dad will get over it so he did I decide it was time for David to come to live with me and dad would get over it it would be easier to tell him David was to live with me then he was dead, I was to go get David the 15th of April and it might of been sooner but it was night before or is it that night he called at around 8 or 9:00 pm asking why I couldn't pick him up sooner then it was 1:23 AM from tat the fire started and the fire dept went to the house. The shouldn't of could of and all you have and the guilt GOD THE GUILT it is hard it is something I have to live with for all my days and no the guilt never goes away and the should of could ofs hand with you knowing if you would of just got him it would never of happened. They say it was a extension cord that got over loaded or it was in the wall the investigator said he couldn't tell everything is so burnt up, Anyhow I didn't tell dad but I left the hospital and went for something to eat I called back to my sister in the hospital and she said dad was gone I said what??!! he just went 5 minute ago he didn't have no kicking or anything he just went.
She later told me she told dad David was gone and didn't get the words out and he left I think he was waiting to know where David was for sure she said she think David was on the other side saying "c'mon pops the train is leaving" if he had came to and we dread telling I am so sure that he would of had a heart attack and died right there. he had a feeding tube and was on life support I have to fight with me sister to take him off we are not sure when he was put on but I will talk with another fire dept. and see if they can tell me which ambulance it was and talk to them. I know dad would never let them put the tube in him and it had to be they told him it would be temporary. As I came back and forth I saw my father decline each time he was loosing weight and was down to 130 something I was bracing my son for dad to be found dead in bed and assure him he couldn't do anything for dad I told him dad would decide when he was to go as mom did and there is nothing you can do. I think maybe it was best that both went nearly together David was fighting with himself to leave dad and very concerned if dad would be happy and he said he would sacrifice his (David's said this for himself) happiness as long as dad is happy. I don't know any kid that would put up with what me son did and never buck never say he didn't want to do it he wanted to stay no matter how dad was. maybe he was to go with my father and dad would be happy David was there to.
David died April , 2012 he liked dragons this is the year of the dragon he liked fire (but not a fire bug) and he died in a fire he also like ninjas as long as I can remember this is why the two ninjas blades these people were very kind and they were will to put anything (ANYTHING) I wanted on the head stone I wish my son could see it I am sure he does but I wish he could be standing with me in the flesh and tell me it is AWESOME he probably is already tell all of the people in heaven look what she did. I just sent the payment out to the people did do the head stone they are to tell me when I am going to go to PA I am in NC and take stuff off his grave so nothing is damaged and once the stone is on then put everything back.
It might of been he had to go if not he was burned so badly he would of have to go through skin graphs and I have seen on TV how painful it is to have the bandages off and to clean them and do this for what must feel it will never end my son was to good a person to have to go through this and I feel it was better he had died then go through the pain and suffering of all of that he would in a heart beat do anything for any one and if you were going through anything painful a,, my husband mother had to have dialysis David would be the first to just up and Say he would do it for he if it would of helped her never mind being sick for this never mind if there was pain involve he wouldn't care if it would help her and she didn't have to do it that is all that matters, one good person in the world and he is taken,
It feels like you very soul is ripped from your body you are numb I still am I don't know if it will end or just be with me till I die which I would bet till I die as everything else will be with me till I die.
thanks for listening
Rhayden
The fire was so bad it came up into the room I used when I came for a visit, the fire came up through it and the bed was hanging through the ceiling everything had smoke damage and heat damage but we found some pictures yet that were good and paper work that the fire didn't touch most was heat and smoke damage, we are not sure how my father got to the side door a neighbor ran across and got my father but was not able to get David the heat was so bad they had to get it under control I talked to the fire company well one of them and he said David was gone they had burned their lungs David was found in the upstairs bathroom we now thing that David and my father was talking or more they were yelling back and forth to eat other I had told David if their was a fire to break the window and go out on the roof it was at the window and then see if he can find dad, the only thing we think David didn't do this is that dad was telling him to go to the bathroom and he couldn't find anything to break the window with OR dad told him the get into the bath tub and wait for the fire dept. dad was walking to the door and still was telling to David but stopped because he was waiting for David to reply but David was gone but we don't know how long dad might of been standing there.
dad was on life support the first day we are sure his subconscious was alert because he heard me and my sister but not David and it was wondering where David was he was like a hoppy toad wiggling around but in the days to follow he didn't move any more. We were waiting to see if dad would come to and we were having to put David in the ground. The doctors said a couple more days but once I talked to a fire fighter that was there I knew dad wasn't coming to. They say eve though a person is unconscious they can still here you. So I told my sister you have to release them so I told dad it is ok to go if you need to you don't have to stay everything is ok and we will take care of everything if you want to stay it is ok to we will do what eve it is to make you happy, I still didn't tell him of David my sister thought if we told him and he could get better that this would make it so he didn't my father depended on David 100 percent dad could walk and all not a long way but David went with him every where he went he wanted to make sure dad was ok once my mother died in 2008 David had the fear dad was going to be dead one day he came back from swimming or somewhere so he stuck to dad a lot. in the last moths well about a year ago we found out David was diabetic the first time David was very sick and he wanted to call the squad but dad wanted him to wait a few more days but he called me I said call the squad I will handle dad he sugar was up to 600 I looked on the web and it said he could go in comma if up to 600.
So the second time he call me I heard dad in the background telling him something I told him to call the squad and dad will get over it so he did I decide it was time for David to come to live with me and dad would get over it it would be easier to tell him David was to live with me then he was dead, I was to go get David the 15th of April and it might of been sooner but it was night before or is it that night he called at around 8 or 9:00 pm asking why I couldn't pick him up sooner then it was 1:23 AM from tat the fire started and the fire dept went to the house. The shouldn't of could of and all you have and the guilt GOD THE GUILT it is hard it is something I have to live with for all my days and no the guilt never goes away and the should of could ofs hand with you knowing if you would of just got him it would never of happened. They say it was a extension cord that got over loaded or it was in the wall the investigator said he couldn't tell everything is so burnt up, Anyhow I didn't tell dad but I left the hospital and went for something to eat I called back to my sister in the hospital and she said dad was gone I said what??!! he just went 5 minute ago he didn't have no kicking or anything he just went.
She later told me she told dad David was gone and didn't get the words out and he left I think he was waiting to know where David was for sure she said she think David was on the other side saying "c'mon pops the train is leaving" if he had came to and we dread telling I am so sure that he would of had a heart attack and died right there. he had a feeding tube and was on life support I have to fight with me sister to take him off we are not sure when he was put on but I will talk with another fire dept. and see if they can tell me which ambulance it was and talk to them. I know dad would never let them put the tube in him and it had to be they told him it would be temporary. As I came back and forth I saw my father decline each time he was loosing weight and was down to 130 something I was bracing my son for dad to be found dead in bed and assure him he couldn't do anything for dad I told him dad would decide when he was to go as mom did and there is nothing you can do. I think maybe it was best that both went nearly together David was fighting with himself to leave dad and very concerned if dad would be happy and he said he would sacrifice his (David's said this for himself) happiness as long as dad is happy. I don't know any kid that would put up with what me son did and never buck never say he didn't want to do it he wanted to stay no matter how dad was. maybe he was to go with my father and dad would be happy David was there to.
David died April , 2012 he liked dragons this is the year of the dragon he liked fire (but not a fire bug) and he died in a fire he also like ninjas as long as I can remember this is why the two ninjas blades these people were very kind and they were will to put anything (ANYTHING) I wanted on the head stone I wish my son could see it I am sure he does but I wish he could be standing with me in the flesh and tell me it is AWESOME he probably is already tell all of the people in heaven look what she did. I just sent the payment out to the people did do the head stone they are to tell me when I am going to go to PA I am in NC and take stuff off his grave so nothing is damaged and once the stone is on then put everything back.
It might of been he had to go if not he was burned so badly he would of have to go through skin graphs and I have seen on TV how painful it is to have the bandages off and to clean them and do this for what must feel it will never end my son was to good a person to have to go through this and I feel it was better he had died then go through the pain and suffering of all of that he would in a heart beat do anything for any one and if you were going through anything painful a,, my husband mother had to have dialysis David would be the first to just up and Say he would do it for he if it would of helped her never mind being sick for this never mind if there was pain involve he wouldn't care if it would help her and she didn't have to do it that is all that matters, one good person in the world and he is taken,
It feels like you very soul is ripped from your body you are numb I still am I don't know if it will end or just be with me till I die which I would bet till I die as everything else will be with me till I die.
thanks for listening
Rhayden
I am so sorry......condolences to you and your family!
Ciruelo Cabral's dragons are very wonderfully drawn. What a beautiful design! It show personality, not just another name. You did wonderfully!!
Sorry for your loss. Your son sounds like a wonderful and generous young man.
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When my father passed I didn't understand the reasons why and the timing of it, but after the 9/11 tragedies the next year I finally figured that God knew my father would have worried himself into an early grave since he faced a draft and got a pass on military service due to health reasons and he had 3 sons all of draft age would have killed him for the fear his sons would be called up for service and possibly killed over seas. Your son was a greater man than you knew to take care of your father, and I think it was in a sense a blessing instead of a curse that he got to see heavan and be there to greet your father and let him know he's okay now too....
My Condolences are with you and your family, May your sone be granted and lovley place in heaven
I lost my Son last year, and i do firmly beleive that God works for teh better of man
My son died during birth as I or my wife would never consider Abortion not even for the world
why Abortion yuou may ask
Well my son was diagnosed during pregnancy with
Gastroschisis, Sever ventriculomegaly, Mega Citerna Magna, Downe Syndrome and got knows what else
My eldest son is also severly disabled with Hydro Cephalis, Corpus Collsum Agenis, a small cerabelum, Dialation of the lower frontal lobes, autism, and sever epilepsy along with developmental delay
we never considered aborting him and we are so proud of him today at 6 years old
My daughter also has Heamangioendotheliomia and both my kids are in and out of hospital
we also have another boy who is fine
Considering we where never going to consider Abortion God decided to interviene in my opinion for us to help us cope. as 3 disabled childeren would be a bit unfair on us and coping as best as we would try might have been too much
so God took him back
Yes we miss him to bits and when he was finally born as a still born we fell in love with him and felt such a great loss and emptiness, espcially going home empty handed
but we always have beleived god made a decision on our behalf for the best interest.
Got also blessed us again and my wife is due anyday now (Induction is secduled for this sunday 26th)
btw here is his headstone that i designed on photoshop and submitted to the stone mason
just remeber in life and in death there is always a reason and it may take time but that reason will reveal itself and will reveal for the better
I lost my Son last year, and i do firmly beleive that God works for teh better of man
My son died during birth as I or my wife would never consider Abortion not even for the world
why Abortion yuou may ask
Well my son was diagnosed during pregnancy with
Gastroschisis, Sever ventriculomegaly, Mega Citerna Magna, Downe Syndrome and got knows what else
My eldest son is also severly disabled with Hydro Cephalis, Corpus Collsum Agenis, a small cerabelum, Dialation of the lower frontal lobes, autism, and sever epilepsy along with developmental delay
we never considered aborting him and we are so proud of him today at 6 years old
My daughter also has Heamangioendotheliomia and both my kids are in and out of hospital
we also have another boy who is fine
Considering we where never going to consider Abortion God decided to interviene in my opinion for us to help us cope. as 3 disabled childeren would be a bit unfair on us and coping as best as we would try might have been too much
so God took him back
Yes we miss him to bits and when he was finally born as a still born we fell in love with him and felt such a great loss and emptiness, espcially going home empty handed
but we always have beleived god made a decision on our behalf for the best interest.
Got also blessed us again and my wife is due anyday now (Induction is secduled for this sunday 26th)
btw here is his headstone that i designed on photoshop and submitted to the stone mason
just remeber in life and in death there is always a reason and it may take time but that reason will reveal itself and will reveal for the better
Rhayden -
It is an absolutely stunning headstone!
I am so sorry for your loss. It is like your soul is ripped out. I have always felt that I only have half a soul since I lost my son. Hold on to your memories and hold your remaining family close. If you ever need to talk to someone, I'm here (along with about a billion other BCYers).
It is an absolutely stunning headstone!
I am so sorry for your loss. It is like your soul is ripped out. I have always felt that I only have half a soul since I lost my son. Hold on to your memories and hold your remaining family close. If you ever need to talk to someone, I'm here (along with about a billion other BCYers).
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