I just have to weigh in on this.
My kids are 12, 10 and 8. They know what I expect from them and they know my rules. I give them exact details of what I expect them to do even on routine things like feeding the chickens.
Everyday, I tell my 10 year old son that he needs to go out to the coop, feed the chickens and fill up their water. And this is what I get back in return, "I know already. I do this everyday." So, today about an hour after I told him to go fill up the water container I went out to the chicken coop. His only job at that moment was to fill up the water. He didn't have to feed them or anything else he could have been sidetracked by. I find a bone dry waterer with pine shavings in it. This confuses me because he turned the water on.
I called him out there and told him that I was confused. He lied and said he did fill it up. I knew he was lying, he knew I knew he was lying. He confessed that he didn't give them water and couldn't give me a good explaination about why he went outside and just turned the water on just to trick me into believing he watered the chickens.
I catch them doing the "wrong" things all the time even after I go into detail about the job I'm giving them.
So... what does this story have to do with the internet? Parents talk to their children. They tell them NOT to give out personal information. They tell them not to talk to people they don't know. They tell them not to go to certain websites. But guess what... kids are still being raped, murdered and kidnapped by people they meet online. Some kids go willingly. They fall in love with 40 year old men they meet online. They think they are "in love" and will do anything for the person on the other end of the internet.
Listen, my brother is 33 years old. He met "the girl of his dreams" online. He was totally in love and she confessed her love to him as well. He met her on myspace, of course. I knew she was a fake from the second I IM'd with her. He didn't believe me and wrote me off. Totally shut me out of his life... until my super sleuthing proved that she was a fraud. That she was married and having multiple online affairs. My ADULT brother fell for this hook, line and sinker.
ADULTS are still getting scammed online. They are being scammed out of their money and their identities. Do you think this won't happen to your children?
The internet is a very dangerous place. Kids don't really "understand" this. Oh, they may say they do. They may say, "I know already." but how do you really know that they understand the consequences and they aren't just saying, "I know already" so you will stop talking? Do you really want to take that chance? I know I don't.
Now I'm not saying my kids aren't allowed to use the internet. They can use it to do homework or research and they have a limited amount of time to play a few select games. The computer is in a very public place in the house and I can see what they are doing at all times.
I don't want them spending all of their time on the computer or in front of the TV. They have chores they have to do at the farm and at home. They can go out in the back yard and play football. They can read a book. They can cook. There are a million other things they can be doing.
I just feel like I'm rambling now. I don't know if this is helping or not but I wanted to express my opinion. You have to do what is right and what works for your family.
Take care and good luck.
Tami
My kids are 12, 10 and 8. They know what I expect from them and they know my rules. I give them exact details of what I expect them to do even on routine things like feeding the chickens.
Everyday, I tell my 10 year old son that he needs to go out to the coop, feed the chickens and fill up their water. And this is what I get back in return, "I know already. I do this everyday." So, today about an hour after I told him to go fill up the water container I went out to the chicken coop. His only job at that moment was to fill up the water. He didn't have to feed them or anything else he could have been sidetracked by. I find a bone dry waterer with pine shavings in it. This confuses me because he turned the water on.
I called him out there and told him that I was confused. He lied and said he did fill it up. I knew he was lying, he knew I knew he was lying. He confessed that he didn't give them water and couldn't give me a good explaination about why he went outside and just turned the water on just to trick me into believing he watered the chickens.
I catch them doing the "wrong" things all the time even after I go into detail about the job I'm giving them.
So... what does this story have to do with the internet? Parents talk to their children. They tell them NOT to give out personal information. They tell them not to talk to people they don't know. They tell them not to go to certain websites. But guess what... kids are still being raped, murdered and kidnapped by people they meet online. Some kids go willingly. They fall in love with 40 year old men they meet online. They think they are "in love" and will do anything for the person on the other end of the internet.
Listen, my brother is 33 years old. He met "the girl of his dreams" online. He was totally in love and she confessed her love to him as well. He met her on myspace, of course. I knew she was a fake from the second I IM'd with her. He didn't believe me and wrote me off. Totally shut me out of his life... until my super sleuthing proved that she was a fraud. That she was married and having multiple online affairs. My ADULT brother fell for this hook, line and sinker.
ADULTS are still getting scammed online. They are being scammed out of their money and their identities. Do you think this won't happen to your children?
The internet is a very dangerous place. Kids don't really "understand" this. Oh, they may say they do. They may say, "I know already." but how do you really know that they understand the consequences and they aren't just saying, "I know already" so you will stop talking? Do you really want to take that chance? I know I don't.
Now I'm not saying my kids aren't allowed to use the internet. They can use it to do homework or research and they have a limited amount of time to play a few select games. The computer is in a very public place in the house and I can see what they are doing at all times.
I don't want them spending all of their time on the computer or in front of the TV. They have chores they have to do at the farm and at home. They can go out in the back yard and play football. They can read a book. They can cook. There are a million other things they can be doing.
I just feel like I'm rambling now. I don't know if this is helping or not but I wanted to express my opinion. You have to do what is right and what works for your family.
Take care and good luck.
Tami