My very first RANT!!

[birdnutz]

She has been diagnosed with bi-polar. Also the last one diagnost her with post tramatic stress disorder. To me thats doubtful. She starts her meds and then stops them. Don't like the way they make her feel. She has never seen a phsycyitrist,just counselors. She is 24 years old with the prioroties of a child.
They lived here for a month. It took her 3 days before she asked where the diapers were. Never cooked a meal. Would just nuke some thing for herself before going to work. Cocktail wattress. Bars close at 2 am. Wouldn't get home before 5. Sleep until 11;45, take son back to work and go back to sleep until 5pm. Off to work at 7.Repeat.
I made a pot roast, it was still in the crock pot. She started griping to son that she never gets to eat before work. Told her it was done,all she had to do was serve it. Wouldn't even do that. Just nuked some ramen noddles for herself and left. The only laundry she does is her own. Son does everyone elses on the weekends.

 

[Buster]

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Your son should do what my brother did and take video of the kids being neglected during the day while he is at work. Surveillance systems run pretty cheap nowadays. I can get you a link if you want. He'll need it when he goes to court for custody of his kids.

 

[farmerlor]

By golly, I know some locks that would've been changed the next morning.

 

[Wifezilla]

An unmedicated person with BPD IS a danger to her kids. I know plenty of bipolar people who are fine parents (as long as they are on meds or between episodes), but BPD??? Yikes! They seem to thrive in chaos and are only happy while making someone else miserable. That is no environment for a child.

If he did divorce her, a psych eval is often part of the custody process.

Even if he decides to stick it out, document document document.

 

[Buster]

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Yep, write down everything- names, dates, times, witnesses. Surveillance too.

 

[birdnutz]

farmerlor LOL I'm the same way. My DH and I had a fight one time and he left. He showed up the next morning while I was trying to change the locks. He's now decided it's better to stay and work things out.
The cameras sound like a good idea. Please send me the links! Trying to get them installed might be problematic though. Maybe he can get her to go visit her family for an over nighter. I'm sure going to bring it up to him.
I don't think they'd give my testimony any weight. But it seems like every time I called over there she was screaming at the kids. I even heard her threaten the 4 year old that she was going to lock him in the closet!

 

[enola]

If he decides to separate from her, He could try documenting all the stupid crap she does. And if she has been diagnosed as bi=polar and refuses to take medication for it, she is dangerous to everyone around her, including the kids. AND cutting herself ??!!

I think your son has a good chance of getting custody of the children if he can prove this is happening in his children's lives.

But here is my biggest problem with this mess..... Staying with the wife BECAUSE HE THINKS IT IS THE BEST THING FOR THE KIDS is a very bad mistake.

I stayed with my abusive husband for 17 years BECAUSE OF THE KIDS. And now they are all telling me that they wished we would get a divorce YEARS before it happened.

He really needs to step back and assess this situation, life is too short to be miserable. For Him or the kids !

 

[birdnutz]

My god wifezilla!! You described her perfectly!! She auctually grins when she finally gets someone angry. No matter what my son wants to do she belittles and yells at him. He never gets any piece and quiet. If he visits here she calls and sends text messages constantly.

 

[Davaroo]

We'd be having a talk, I can tell you.

Here's the gist of it: Keep that up and you 're not welcome.

 

[Buster]

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I thought I had it bookmarked but I didn't. I'll get you the links a little later today when I can call my friend who showed them to me. You might Google spycams in your free time, but this site was pretty good stuff for fairly reasonable amounts.