That friend is full of it. Probably doesen't want her daughter to be shown up.
I plan on getting a gypsy one day... one day.... but in the meantime, everything I have read on them and the people I have spoken to... they aren't just about hair. The gypsies have an amazing temperament and amazing strength. I wouldn't doubt they could do a LOT of things with the appropriate training.
If thats what your daughter has her heart set on and you find you can afford it, I wouldn't hesitate a moment to get one. Just make sure the particular one is a good fit for your daughter
It's just the nature of show horse people... and show dog people too I suppose... to look down on anything they think has some "advantage" or something they don't have. No matter what breed you get, what kind of show, or where it is, you are going to encounter this. Oh.. you have a black horse.. mines not black. Oh... your horse has more training, so I must be a better rider... on and on and on
For instance, when I was a girl and showing my Paso Fino mare... She was such a talented mare, but a pinto (beautiful buckskin pinto)... and there was a hefty portion of Paso people that despised horses with pinto coloring. We won many blue and red ribbons... then some shows, friendly fellow pinto lovers would come up and warn me about this judge or that judge and their bias.. and sure enough some bay horse would place above us on those days
But it didn't matter much to me... showing should be about FUN.. especially for kids. Theres alot they can learn without winning that is more than worth the time and investment. When I took my pinto mare to the National Paso Fino Show... in the youth class.. I'd shown enough by then that I was just out there to have fun... I was so relaxed and happy, we had the best class we ever had, Fantasia did so great... and out of 32 horses in the class, we placed 3rd
I was so unbelieveably happy with that!!!!