I know you are getting upset by people focusing on the way you are holding your bird. But it’s difficult for many of us to not focus on that. It’s uncommon for people to hold them that way on here. And we personally wouldn’t handle our birds that way. As for the best way to handle a bird, that may be one way to do it, but it’s definitely not the safest or best way.
But that a side, it’s very difficult to tell the gender just by a few pictures, especially of a younger bird.
You said that you are already aware of it’s gender? If so, why did you ask on here if you already know? And I’m sure we’re all curious to know how you are able to tell on such a young bird.