Neighbors keep asking for money !!** UPDATE LOL **

[cknmom]

Put a bus schedual in her mailbox! Tell her her kids can get a ride to school everyday by using the school bus!!! I used to feel sorry for everyone with a sob story. It got to where I had to stop keeping money around the house. I don't like to lie, so that way I could tell the truth.

The only time I have asked to borrow anything from a neighbor was when I have been in the middle of baking/cooking something and have found that I was out of something I though I had. I would then send over some of whatever I was making PLUS what I had borrowed. I think that has happened three times in my life!

DO NOT give her ANYTHING!!!

Have you asked the other neighbors if she or her kids have come to thier doors asking for money???
If so you ALL could call social services. I know in CA, sometimes they will not do anything unless they get several calls on a family.

Monica

 

[Lunachick]

I wouldn't even have her in your yard, even for helping you out with work. She might be the snoopy kind and work her way into your house. And then what?

I like my privacy, I don't care if someone thinks I'm rude. I would say "hello" and go about my business. But that's me.

 

[LittleChickenRacingTeam]

In situations such as these, i always ask myself..."what would Jesus do?"

I would probably hand her $50 & tell her to stay off my property & not to expect any further handouts. But I'm just generous that way.

What you could do is offer $20 & tell her you know what it's like when times are tough, & that while you don't really have extra cash that you want her to take this $20 as a LOAN. Tell her to pay you back when she can, & that you wish you could do more, but are not able to. Make sure she fully understands that you LOANED her the $20.

That way if she comes back to mooch more money, you can explain that she never repayed the first $20 you LOANED her, & feel she is trying to take advantage of you.

 

[DrakeMaiden]

Ha ha, I don't think Jesus would carry cash.

Help her by teaching her how to help herself.

 

[Farmer Kitty]

DH's family thought we were "made of money" when we first got married. I made it plain and clear that we didn't have it and they could quit asking. I would do the samething if I were in your shoes with the neighbor. They need to figure out their own finances and stay out of yours.

 

[Crazy4Chicks]

I was outside for a few giving the girls a pep talk about laying really well today - I have an egg order to be filled by tomorrow !
and the neighbor's van is not in her driveway - hmmm she got gas for her van real fast -
while i was out there she drove up and came to the fence - saying how her DH gets paid today and if I could lend her the money she would be able to pay me back - when I explained to her that I am not in the habit of handing out money - but if she wanted to help me today in my yard I would gladly pay her for her time - also send home some fresh eggs for the kids for easter - she got very rude and said she did not have time for this and walked off all nasty - oh well I tried.

I no longer feel bad for saying no - and I will keep on saying no - she was able to drive her van this morning she could have drove it to her DH's job and got a few dollars from him.



Julie

 

[Farmer Kitty]

I would wonder if she had gas in the van to go somewhere but, can't wait for DH to get paid, what does she need the money for? Something smells funny.

 

[hypnofrogstevie]

What I am about to say is going to be mean. I think its time to do a restraining order. If it is getting out of hand like this. You have to do it as it is the only way. If you dont have the heart to do it then tell the mother "Look. If you keep having your kids comming over to ask for money I will have to do a restraining order." and then leave. I am sorry but its the only way

 

[kaylakala]

It doesn't sound like she'll be back anytime soon.

 

[cybercat]

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I agree with farmer Kitty. To me this sounds like a drug habit. Is the money really needed for gas??? One will never know but if you talk to the hubby sometime you might let it drop that his wife needs gas money.