New Year Block swap

[Kassaundra]

Very cute!

 

[katsdar]

I guess I didn't say if it was a boy or girl, It's a BOY

Caesar is his name and I spent a very sleepless first night, but we only had one accident, he cries if he has to go and I run him outside. and I'm glad he is quick as I hate the cold and no time to bundle up just grab and go so then we both need warming when we come in. The other animals are in shock still.

 

[katsdar]

Ok ladies I need your advice.

I have just gotten word that my brother has 6 months to live he has liver cancer. We are scattered to the four winds so I'm the closest in GA. Pat never married or had kids but he has lived with this family for 16 years in Tennessee. Pat didn't call me but the wife of the friend he lives with did. I think out of necessity because he is in the hospital right now and Iris can't make any medical decisions he is not there mentally 100% so she called me saying that she can't even get a hospital bed brought to the house for him and she needs medical power of attorney. So I don't know if he will or wants to come live with me and I will take care of him, I have not gotten to speak with him yet, but where hospice is concerned do you have to establish residency to be eligible in lets say GA and I did speak with his nurse and they do need me to sign some documents, will this make me responsible for his medical bills? Lord knows I can't afford anymore of them I have more than enough to go around. Pat has no insurance or income etc. I am making plans to go to Memphis but hubby has to get home first. Life is so much fun when you least expect it.Oh and I'm trying not to get upset but a thought keeps coming to mind would no one have called me until he was gone if these problems didn't arise. I can see where it would have been hard for my brother to call and say something like that but really. You can be quite frank with me I just need to know if someone has any experience with this stuff and thanks for letting me vent. Waiting on the call from the doctor, the nurse said he wants to talk to me.

 

[katsdar]

Hi,
I just talked to the doc and Pat would not more than likely make the trip from Tn to GA. There not even sure if they can get him on to pills to keep his blood pressure low enough to let him go home. His aneurysm is to bad and that will be more likely to get him than the cancer. Least we know what we are facing and I guess that would be better than the slow process of cancer

 

[RustyHen]

katsdar I'm so sorry to hear what you and you brother are going through. I think you need to go see for yourself what is best for him, that way you will be at peace with yourself. Deal with the hospice there if you need to, they seem to all be a little different in each state.
God be with you both and guide you well
Karen

 

[quailtrail]

Katsdar I am so sorry!!! ((HUGS))

 

[coldupnorth]

katsdar I think RustyHen has some good advice about seeing for yourself. You and your family will be in my prayers.

 

[katsdar]

Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers it really means a lot. I am planning a trip as soon as I can get my DH home. I will let you all know what is going on

 

[lolasflowers]

I am so very sorry for the bad news. I will pray for everyone. Call the hospital that he is staying in, see if they have a social worker. Ask them for the information you seek. Those people know so very much and if they do not know the answer they find people who do. I hope everything goes well for you and the other loved ones.

 

[katsdar]

Thank you for the wishes and I will call the social worker tomorrow well the hosp and see if I can get a social worker.