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Yeppers, that's our eldest.... we were being very careful with uh hmm family site so let's go with ... meds and plastics... and tadaa still got preggers our senior year. Wouldn't change a thing, but I know without a doubt that DH's college years (still going at age 30) would have been a LOT easier had kids that need full time employment to support them had not been on the plate.
That's not really an issue here, but like you said there are other factors. I think she's got a good handle on things. She knows her feelings. Just a question of communicating them. Also agree that honesty is best. If you were to get caught 'sneaking' pills then it could open a whole new can of worms. The "you don't EVER want to have my kid" thing... or, if really paranoid the "Trying to make sure you don't get preggers because you wouldn't know who the father is" are two things that just aren't true, but once you've lied (by omitting that you're still taking the pills) then some folks have a hard time not being hurt, lashing out, and letting their mind wander about what other lies might be around. MUCH better to be open, face possibly a small bit of disappointment, then to have major hurdles later.
Yeppers, that's our eldest.... we were being very careful with uh hmm family site so let's go with ... meds and plastics... and tadaa still got preggers our senior year. Wouldn't change a thing, but I know without a doubt that DH's college years (still going at age 30) would have been a LOT easier had kids that need full time employment to support them had not been on the plate.
That's not really an issue here, but like you said there are other factors. I think she's got a good handle on things. She knows her feelings. Just a question of communicating them. Also agree that honesty is best. If you were to get caught 'sneaking' pills then it could open a whole new can of worms. The "you don't EVER want to have my kid" thing... or, if really paranoid the "Trying to make sure you don't get preggers because you wouldn't know who the father is" are two things that just aren't true, but once you've lied (by omitting that you're still taking the pills) then some folks have a hard time not being hurt, lashing out, and letting their mind wander about what other lies might be around. MUCH better to be open, face possibly a small bit of disappointment, then to have major hurdles later.
