Not sure if I should, what would you do?

Discussion in 'Managing Your Flock' started by blueberrychickens, Jan 31, 2011.

  1. blueberrychickens

    blueberrychickens Chillin' With My Peeps

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    My DH & I have a long lost friend who has recently moved back to our state. This fellow has had his shares of ups & downs including a stroke due to heavy drug use. He's clean now & suffers some memory issues from the stroke, & has had a really really hard time keeping a job. Currently he lives about 45 mins from us. He would love to have some eggs, but I don't really have any to spare on a weekly basis, & I fear that if I give him some, he'll be constantly knocking on my door. Last night he hinted about getting his own chicken but keeping it w/ my flock so he can have his own eggs (since he barely has a roof over his head) . I do want to add some chickens to my existing flock this spring/summer, but should I let him have one??? I want to help him out in a sense, but I don't know if doing this is such a good idea.
    Any thoughts????
     
  2. tiffanyh

    tiffanyh Chillin' With My Peeps

    Apr 8, 2007
    Connecticut
    I think your heart is in the right place. I think you need to carefully work out the logistics. How many eggs would his "one" hen lay? How would you know? Will he contribute to feed? It seems as if it has the potential to get blurry, especially if he has memory loss.

    Maybe he should build a "chicken tractor" to keep at your home with his own bird and he can supply their food and you could scoop some in for his daily, that way it is clear whose it whose and what is what.

    I dont mean to be a pessimist, it just always seems that these things have the potential to go bad and hurt peoples feelings.
     
  3. ChickyLaura

    ChickyLaura The Crazy Chicken Lady

    Mar 31, 2009
    Eastern/Central PA
    I think I probably would. If he has his own chicken, which could hopefully lay at least a few eggs each week, then he would have his own eggs and not have to 'bum' your eggs. Would he give you any money towards her food and upkeep?

    I work at a Psych hospital, and I know the damage that drugs can do. I hope he can keep it together.
     
  4. ChickensAreSweet

    ChickensAreSweet Heavenly Grains for Hens

    I would be strong and not open the door to a potential problem. Giving him eggs once in awhile when you have "extra" is the safest thing when YOU want to.

    You can say nicely that you really don't want to change the way you are doing things, and you might have eggs to give him once in awhile.
     
  5. lotzahenz

    lotzahenz Chillin' With My Peeps

    Aug 28, 2008
    Lexington, Kentucky
    I have mixed feelings, but if he is a friend, you should give him eggs or sell him eggs, at least a dollar a doz. I would not let him "own" one of your chickens for many reasons. How would you know if SHE laid that day? What if she molts, dies, goes broody? And, if your buying her feed, she is really YOUR chicken. Feed costs more than the chick or hen. Those are my thoughts. No hen for him, but sell him eggs or give him eggs. I'd get my own or hatch some chicks so you have plenty. I always give any dirty or small or odd eggs to a family that needs them and their old grand pap eats them everyday and I think that keeps him alive, as he has no teeth. He won't eat eggs from the store anymore and it makes me feel real good to help them out. It'll be chick season soon, you can add some egg-laying pullets very soon.

    May you find your hens laying each and every day now, HenZ
     
  6. NYREDS

    NYREDS Overrun With Chickens

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    My DH & I have a long lost friend

    I think the answer's in that sentence. Friends help each other.​
     
  7. Junkmanme

    Junkmanme Chillin' With My Peeps

    There are some decisions that a person must make on their own...and be comfortable with.

    Advice cannot help make this decision OR abrogate any feelings associated with the decision.

    It is one that YOU (who is closest to the matter) MUST make "on your own".

    Good Luck !!![​IMG] [​IMG]

    -Junkmanme- [​IMG]
     
  8. Hottchick

    Hottchick Chillin' With My Peeps

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    My opinion, for what it's worth, is that if you want to get another hen anyway, I would go with it. I have a nephew that says that one of the chickens is "his" when he comes over.

    If the chicken lives with you, you care for it it is yours technically. But if you give him the eggs from that one chicken (or one chicken's worth anyway) and let him call it his, no harm no fowl.

    It makes my nephew happy.....
    But I would have some kind of agreement from the get go like he can't come take it away without having adequate shelter and all ready. And an egg agreement so everyone knows what to expect.

    Just my opinion.
     
  9. babalubird

    babalubird Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I just went through some crazy stuff trying to help a "friend." It turned out not to be a very good friendship. I was being taken advantage of, and I suspect the same will happen to you. It was the end of a 13-yr. friendship and frankly I feel free and happier for the first time in a long time.

    I think someone's suggestion to encourage or help him build a chicken tractor to keep 1-3 hens on his own property would be the better suggestion. You can help him by teaching him how to care for them. End it there, or you'll be paying for the food. You can, afterall, make chicken tractors out of lots of stuff and keep it cheap or even free if necessary.

    Connie
     
  10. pontoosuc

    pontoosuc Chillin' With My Peeps

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    I'd go with the idea of helping my friend with giving/donating/selling eggs and not the keeping a hen with the anticipation of any egg production. Just my thoughts, anything else seems like it could get messy.
     

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