now i need some advice.

[thechickenchick]

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We all have differnt opinions about this situation and obviously we all handle our problems differently. The main thing here is you need to make what ever choice you feel is more beneficial to you. Whatever it is, even if it is your choice to do nothing, I am behind you.

 

[agnes_day]

awww thanks everyone!

 

[Knock Kneed Hen]

I'm sorry

I've been pretty naive about my own family. I just recently decided to cut off my older sister. I've known for years that she doesn't like me...and it has nothing to do with me. I got along with mom growing up and she didn't. I was raised that blood is thicker than water and no matter what you stick together.....

! I prefer to surround myself with upbeat, positive people that love me and allow me to love them. I don't know how my family became so nasty and negative but I don't want it around me or my children. It's hard enough in this world to keep a positive attitude. You have an adoring husband and your children. Focus all your time, attention and affection on them!! That's what I've chosen to do and I've never been happier! I'm courteous when I see them, I never turn down an invite because "one of them" are going to be there....really I just don't care. It's been liberating to tell myself that I have so much more than they do and I pity them that they can't enjoy life. They are losing out on a relationship with you and if they want to come to you with their tail tucked between their legs and apologize than I'd say give them another chance. It's not likely though. Just play nice in the sandbox when you have to. Remember, you're setting an example for your children.

 

[PineappleMama]

Well, that sucks.

Plenty, including me, talk to family/friends when they're worried about their other family/friends... you can talk out your concerns, maybe decide if you should or shouldn't say anything... without risking hurting the person... been there... so I can understand that. I hope you can understand too. You're here talking about her right now, same thing... so I hope y'all can get past that and maybe in the future will just talk to each other honestly...

And hopefully you can forgive her goof in sending it... if her email is anything like mine then it's not too hard to select the wrong person... I type in B and it fills in a name... or you pick one... easy to miss and click one name down you know? Hopefully that's all that was... not her just trying to be cranky... if that's the case then by all means cut her off until she grows up and starts acting like a decent human being. Problem of course is how do you figure out if it was on purpose. Whether she made a really stupid error and caused pain, or deliberately caused pain either way she's going to be defensive. Hopefully she'll buck up and say sorry for your feelings getting hurt and you can accept that apology and go forward.

Did you also send a copy to your brother and cut him out too? He was talking too... and didn't tell you... didn't stop her... the only difference I guess is that he made a point of making sure you didn't know about it. Them talking hurt you, that's the part that bothers you right? So, I'm guessing you also cut him out. That's a lot to lose. I don't know if I'd be strong enough to ban someone from my life for that.

In the end it's your choice. If you want to forgive them, still have them around, have their support and love nearby, then you will. If you don't want or need them in your life then you won't.

Hope whichever path you choose you and yours are happy.

 

[PoultryPedia]

agnes_day --

Sorry for the hard stuff you're facing!

 

[agnes_day]

thank you so much

 

[mmpb1]

My brother passed. Even with as much hurt he gave us, I'd give anything to have him back.
Margie

 

[Boyd]

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I have a grandfather and a sibling both living in your neck of the woods... chances are you've spoken to them since the before the last time I have. Sometimes you can't pick your family.