Now I remember why I have not had friends for a long time!!!!!!

[violetsky]

Don't feel left out because you don't have a lot of friends. I have teenage daughters and get to a lot of
female social interaction. My stepdaughter and my youngest daughter are very popular and make friends
easy. My older daughter is little more reserved. I used to worry over her and think the other two were
more gifted socially. What I've noticed is, the two girls that make friends easily also lose them quickly and just
make new ones. I don't think any of their large circle of friends will last or be there when things get sticky. The more
reserved daughter is keeping the same small group of friends and I've noticed they really true friends. If you want friends
that are near and dear and last a lifetime it takes time. You also have to be a friend. Often really good people find each
other when thy are doing something they have a genuine interest in. Chicken people Unite!

 

[kimisfishing]

yes chicken people unite......I like that. it will work out, I dont have a problem not having *friends* I am fine alone, I get more stiff done that way LOL

 

[Newwell]

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I couldn't agree more. We need to use what time the LORD has left for us here to put our time, talents & energy into those who are most important...like our families.

I understand the "loneliness" aspect as we just moved across the country to be closer to our family, and we left the friends that we have known for 25+ years. It is hard, but I know we will be fine. I was feeling very lonely a while back & kept thinking "We have to FIND some friends!" No, I don't think that's how it works. I feel that friends "happen" & we don't have to go looking for friendship. I am very fortunate that I am married to my best friend. So I am going to be content with that. If the LORD wants me to have new friends, then I will have new friends. My DH & I do get out & meet people here. I have to believe that it will happen.

Don't waste your precious time. If they call, fine, enjoy talking to them, & maybe get together with them if you feel so inclined. You don't have to cut them off, but do NOT feel obligated to them AT ALL.

Anyway big

& know that you are in the same boat as many other people. It just may SEEM that you are the only one in the boat.

 

[kuntrygirl]

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You're not alone. You have us.

 

[kimisfishing]

I went over last night to get some stuff from one of the gals and they already had all my stuff ready for me LOL
but they invited me in to play games and stay for a while.
I said no I did not want to be there when other one showed up ( she always does if I am there)
but she had plans.....I am not being the ( when others cant) person.
They really dont get it. I am done......
they just want it to be on good terms incase they need somthing LOL TOOOOO BADDDD
It is not on bad terms cause I chose it...
I have you guys to talk to

 

[violetsky]

It is so refreshing to see some people have the courage to move on and do so. I complained
and carried on about my ex to friends and family for years and started to think I sounded like a broken record time before
I actually did something. I have friends that keep crying over the same rotten person in their life
but never do what it takes to move on. How does the saying go? "You hurt me once shame on you,
you hurt me twice shame on me". I wasted 13 years hoping for change, once I left I never had any regrets or even
had anything to look back on and miss. Of course real friends and good people need forgiving at times, but mistakes in
judgement have to measured in intent, not result.

 

[ChicksterJo]

kimisfishing, I don't have many friends off the internet, and that's because I choose to keep most people that I meet "at a distance," so to speak. I have that same mindset that people do want things from you in the long run. I am constantly angry at my SO's best friend because it seems like he is lazy and wants to bum off of my SO's hard efforts. Anyway, when I was working this summer I thought I had made a friend at work. We carpooled together, etc. When work ended for the summer she stopped talking to me, didn't even return my last call. So I didn't call her back to ask why. My mom asks me how I'd expect to do well in the "working world" when I don't like most people I meet (or I think they have bad intentions.) She thinks people in their 20-somethings have a problem socializing. Not me. I can open up and be very friendly and generous. I tell her, well, from my track record, I believe I am the nicest that I can be to them, but somehow they don't like me? Or maybe they just don't want to be a "friend"?

I don't worry about it. I've got my SO and when we get our farm I will have our animals, especially chickens.
And don't worry because you've got tons of like-minded people on BYC

 

[kimisfishing]

thank you all for the kind words and encouragement, It it hard to not talk to them, but I can do it, I have my kids, husband, you guys and my chickens......it will suck for them when I have fresh eggs and they dont LOl....I still talk to alot of people at work, just not goign to depend on any of them outside of the job. I do have one that likes to do things so we will have fun. I get free tickets to alot of things here and can give thme to the people who really matter and care.

 

[kimisfishing]

This is just plain STUPID !!!!!
did a field trip with the gal..... she would not leave me alone, sat in my bus all day, followed me in the store, talked and asked me questions....She just doesnt get it. There was another driver with us so I could not tell her to go away. I do not want anyone else to know our issues. I can't believe she still thinks all is fine, what part of .......I AM DONE.....does she not get ?????

 

[cravenchx]

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Maybe she cares!