bow wow...one of my 3 sisters is the executor of the "trust." And basically pays mom's bills cuz mom's a space cadet and bills get burried and paid late other wise....dad used to pay the bills...then he died....and mom didn't keep on top of it. Anyway, mom wouldn't need to use the trust to help me with the house and at any rate she can trump the trust anyway. And basically, mom can't think for herself and needs her freinds and her family to make up her own mind...drives me absolutely insane.
buff, I've got about 3 hours that Ava is gone at school. Where I live it's a good 30 minutes from anywhere. But I have thought about helping the school as a parent aid...I could go in and help kids read.... I just have been down and outs a lot lately and not feelin so hot...so much to do right now, I can't afford to not be workin on the house but it's depressing... I know, one foot in front of the other....
I know they are stressed out about thier lives but really....they have good lives....nice secure jobs....they have friends at their jobs....husbands--and understand they are not always as helpful as they should be....and nice homes....great neighborhoods, neighbors, and friends and great schools for thier kids and have fun down times with their family.
I get one sister is so way out in boonies she has to travel over an hour to get to work....I know they want to move closer to town. I know that's part of her stress. I know her hubby is a cop and has several days off and she has friends who's cop hubby's work those days as security and bring in extra money...so I know that is part of her stress. Plus she has 2 little boys who are handfuls but she loves em anyway.
The other sis is stressed cuz she takes care of ma's $ and feels the need to micro manage. My oldest sis who's livin with ma and pays no rent, utilities, food....and borrows $ for her other bills and still comes up short...and takes a tremendous amount of "trips" she says she pays for from her
ebay biz...and says she'd go insane if she couldn't take the trips...at anyrate...who cares, mom allowed her to live there to help her out to get on her feet. She had a hysterectomy a couple years ago and she was to use her $ to catch up on hospital bills...and help her 3 teenage kids out with school, college, car ins....but really, she's not helping them as much as she could and they are all working and paying most of thier bills...so it's really a question of what IS she spending her $ on and needing to understand she is taking advantage of her situation and needs to be held accountable for her own finances. She's a hair dresser and blames things on the economy and peoples lack of finances to get their hair done...but I have several friends who are hair dressers and making a living...paying mortgages...and bills and taking care of kids...only they don't go on tons of mini vacations.
So the sis who takes care of ma's $ is stressed from that and cuz her lil boy who is 6 is not learning at the speed he should be and is in a smaller special class. She was the one who stressed me out completely telling me that my oldest girl was autisitc and wouldn't leave it alone until I went to the children's hospital in Chicago and got her tested to find out...she is not autistic. So I could come home and say...get off my back. Now I say to her...remember Zoe started out slower than the rest? It took her till 1st grade to really make any progress...and I try to reassure her that Ryan just needs time and no big deal...even if her kid was born with autism or something which he has NOT been diagnosed with just ADHD that she would love him just the same...just like I love my kids and Zoe though everyone was trying to tell me something was wrong with her. I loved being able to tell everyone to get off my back. So anyway, she's taking it really personal.
So that's my family story. Fun huh? I swear...why the drama? I mean, life can suck so much worse....why focus and heavily focus that it seems the negative overwhelms your very soul??? They have wonderful lives...they just need to take stock in it.
