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Seriously? Spotless? Are they nuts? If I understood your earlier post you kind of bought the house with some of your parents stuff still in it. The ex walked out with out his stuff. You have 2 young children and your health has been a major issue. Its also my understanding the ex did not leave a house in good standing.... there was maintanence and repairs left undone.
I really hope your mom does not back out again. At least when the papers are signed on the new home it will be easier to focus on the task at hand. You will have a better idea of what you will need, want and can fit in the new house.
You may be right about Easter falling on a weekend this year.
My sentiments exactly.
I already sold most of my dad's wood shop tools but there is still a lot left to do to get the garage and wood shop empty. I have a feeling it's all going to come down to me. I mean, if I have to pay for a bigger dumpster to get rid of things even though X bought the house with me and it's technically in his name...I have a feeling he'll argue it's not his stuff getting tossed---but if you ask me, he moved in and bought EVERYTHING house and stuff included, so if I do have to get a bigger dumpster I think he should be responsible for half. I'll have to talk to my lawyer about this. And the rest of the stuff that I can't take with me but has value...I suppose I could call the local auction and get them to sell it although, I know I won't get what its worth and the auctioneer will take a cut. sigh...
I guess I'll just have to look at this as new beginnings.
So basically what my sister has convinced my mom is a) there hasn't been a formal appraisal---although our bank, according to sellers title and lawyer, needs to come out with thier appraisal person by the 24th to make sure it is worth the loan amount they agree to. But I guess to my sister this is not as good as an official appraisal.
Ok--fine...but lets do it and lets do it today. There's got to be someone available. I know also what houses are selling for around here and so does seller. The houses in that town are selling for around $80,000 and they are fixer uppers and case in point the one I was looking at next to them, had fuel oil and needed to get updated to natural gas which would have been another $5-6 k ??? added cost, not to mention the kitty wall paper room and paisley bathroom and that the house stunk of cat besides other repairs. The sellers house that I'm looking at now, is move in ready and has all updates including plumbing and new well, which is huge, and they agreed with my mom and I that they would take $84,000. We already know mom can get the loan and it would not negatively impact her and we already have sat down with a financial person to say, I indeed would be able to afford living there. This and the fact that I would be doing a rent to own and as soon as my home is sold would be able to pay my mom back every last penny.
b) Sister wants mom's Chicago lawyer in on the deal. ---ok, fine. I'm not opposed but please, lets not drag this out because you and other middle sister are bitter that mom is helping me during a hard time in my life right now. She's under the impression that mom is paying for my divorce---it's not the case....and she should have been fully aware because...well, lets see: Mom sold her cabin and gifted her 4 children 10k. Sister started taking a tally of any $ I had given to me---i.e. mower repair and divorce lawyer and said I would pay the trust back WITH interest. But then mom told me after the cabin sold, sister had deducted those payments out of the 10 k coming to me. Mom had not given my the 10 k because she did not want my X to think he was entitled to the gift--although, my lawyer said he would not be--since we are separated and divorce has been filed and the gift was gifted to me soley. Regardless, mom has held on to the $ and we are keeping a running tally of what is deducted from that...since I just had to pay my lawyer another 2k again recently. So sister was under the impression mom was paying for my divorce and her and other sister are angry and bitter because they are stressed out and unhappy with their jobs and believe i have it so easy. I, myself, am insulted. I'd love for them to spend a week in my body and my life, and ask them if they'd rather live thier own life or live mine. I have a feeling they'd choose their health and the lives they have chosen to live and at times life is stressful but they have much to be thankful for because they are blessed in many ways, whether they choose to acknowledge it or not. I know they have friends as their co workers that help the day go by. I've heard one sister praise her boss and thier kindness. I've heard the other sister praise the work she does at the hospital and be really intrigued with the medical advances that Mayo has uncovered.
I've heard them both complain about their husbands and yet, I know, they long for their companionship and coming home day to day and thier active role as father to thier children. I know they both live in nice houses in wonderful neighborhoods and have awesome neighbors. I know that 1 sister lives pay check by pay check and they are considering moving closer to town--so they don't have to travel and hour one way to their jobs and their children as they grow will be able to be involved easier with extra-curriculars---I.E. football or what have you. I know if they do this then they will be saving money and times may not be so hard and I support thier decision and I feel bad they put so much money into the farm house they are at now and won't get it back in return when they do sell....but I know life will go on and little by little things will feel less stressful. As I believe will be the case with me once I can move to a home I can afford to live in and support my children and put the divorce behind me.
I know they both have money to go on vacations and to shows and concerts, pay their bills on time, keep up with the latest technology, trade in cars when needed, go out to lunches and dinners with friends or themselves, and have what I would consider very satisfying lives beyond work. I believe they are blessed and should be thankful for what they have, including their health, and should be happy with the lives they lead. When they are not focused on me or my oldest sister and feeling they may be missing out on thier inheritance ....when I've spoken with them we have joked and talked and it seems as if life is not as horrible as they are feeling it is right now. I don't think they understand that this is a temporary loan and even if we say it is, they doubt I'll get any equity back on my house and they fear x will drop out of army and be a bum. Well, I think they are mistaken from what a realitor has told me about my home even as is and I think x wouldn't jepordize his new found respect he has earned in the army as long as a constant changing career to keep his ADHD tendencies happy and a constant paycheck with room to climb a ladder and retirement and other benefits.
and that's my story...
