Ok, where do those super moms get the time and energy

[HeatherLynn]

Dangit guys I am looking at school and activity schedules and I don't know how I am ever going to make it all work. First off my husbands schedule changed without warning so my normal schedule is messed up. He essentially will be gone all day every day but I do get see him while we sleep. In one day me and the littles have to be in the car for over 4 hours every single week. I told my husband he needs a second wife to get everything done. She can't have any kids though because that will just make things worse, not better. Dear lord, I read about these moms that juggle it all and I feel like a failure. I don't even have a job and I can't keep up, how do these working moms do it all? I am running and working at home so much my downtime for the day is maybe a half hour. As I type this, I am sorting laundry, another loads going, I'm directing the dialy scramble to get chores done, and assisting my 4 year old in lincoln log building. My husband suggested hiring a babysitter one day a week but that just seems stupid. I stay at home and have to resort to hiring a baby sitter on dance days. pathetic. Yep thats how I feel, pathetic. Why oh why did they have to change the schedule. I planned everything around our schedule. Pathetic!

I need to find more energy, more time, and more organization. Lots more organization.

 

[turney31]

I have been there done that, working 2 jobs. I was divorced with 3 kids. The one important piece of advice I would give you is to relay, that these busy times, are the good times. It will be all over in but a blink of an eye. It took me a year to get over the empty nest syndrome. I drove a little red car and everyone called it "The Meteor" Enjoy!

 

[dewey]

It's ok to have less activities.

 

[HeatherLynn]

none have a ton of activities really just too many of us have activities. My daughter has the most with 2 days of dance 40 minutes from the house. That requires the littles and me to sit in the car for a very long time. My son on one of those nights has scouts. More time for me and the littles in the car. My other son has preschool 5 days a week another 30 minutes away. ( downside of living wicked far out ) Then homeschool group meets twice a month for like 4 hours each. Then there is 4h livestock club for a son. Almost doable. But the littles getting dragged about and my parents at home on their own. and then there is the non stop cooking and laundry. I cook 3 meals a day for 8 people. I never leave the kitchen anymore. Listen to me complain ( sigh), What I want to know is there are moms out there who do SO so much more and they are all peppy and put together and perfect. ugggg I don't think I like them. I am more like give me my coke and some chocolate and no one gets hurt. I made 4 meals tonight and doing 4 more tomorrow in an effort to have less cooking during the week. Maybe that will make some spare time.

They have to have a method right? Like some secret way to schedule and organize and streamline things. Please say there is a secret. I got desperate and checked out the dugger site but she just talks about crying in the laundry room. How is that helpful. I already know how to cry in the laundry room. I need a life remodel that will make us all efficient, organized, cheerful, and perky. Although just writing perky was a bit annoying. I might skip the perky part, and maybe cheerful too. I could go for just efficient and organized.

 

[FlaRocky]

On cooking, crock pot.... And find some large comericial cooking pans. Cook 3 times what you need and pack in freezer for later. How old are you kids?

Mom had four kids, worked full time, came home worked with dad and us cleaning fish. ( dad comericial fisherman) boys to scouts both made eagle. In high school cooked for most of the football team, they hung out at our house. Always had at least 10 for dinner everytime. Don't know how she did it but she did because she was mom. Had a garden that was 150' X 250' to work in everyday.

All of us kids no matter the size had chores everyday. Every little bit helps.

Maye

Ride the Glide....Got Gait....I do.....

 

[HeatherLynn]

12, 10, 4, 2 are the ages. ya know I have a beautiful as big as he could find one crockpot that my husband gave me and I never use it. Maybe I will pull that out today. Laundry and cooking are my 2 biggest problems. Laundry I can't let anyone help on because i swear they try to mess up that stupid machine. My parents are here too and my mom freaks when I try to show the kids how to do laundry. Apparently its my job to do it with pride. I have no clue what that means. Cooking my daughter will help on some. My husband doesn't cook but he is willing to wash dishes while I cook if its something he likes. So today is cooking.

It just seems we have no flow to how we do things. I run around frantically and everyone is relaxed until they are late and cannot find their stuff. My stuff is organized and I do organize their stuff. It just never stays that way. It makes me fidgity to live this way. I remember a time when every little thing had a place, I mean even nick nacks were perfectly placed and dusted. Granted no kids or husband then lol. Ah well I am going to spend the weekend trying to make some little improvement to our flow. I still say the super moms have secrets they are not sharing.

 

[Raiquee]

I like to think I'm a super mom. Lol. I work full time (an hour and a half commute), go to school full time, have a 4 yo and a 1 yo, another one on the way. Me and Dh work opposite shifts, so we are both acting as single parents. I feed, dress, bath as needed, shower myself, feed myself, do homework, do laundry, a load of dishes and cook dinner for that night all in a matter of 4 hours. On my way home from work ( at 11 at night) I stop for errands. Either Walmart or we have a grocery called woodmans that is 24 hours. Those nights I don't make it home til 2 am sometimes.

Try a home binder. Try having the older kids pull out their clothes the night before, and they can't come down for breakfast until they are cleaned up and dressed. Have those older kids help you heather!! Have them clean up and dress the littles too. During this time you can get ready, do a quick load of dishes, a quick load of laundry and make breakfast. Cook ahead and freeze, it's still homemade. Send those kids outside after breakfast to play and tell them they haver to play for at least 30 min so you can do a load of laundry.

 

[Raiquee]

Also those nights you are at dance and have to wait til she's done, scope out the local grocery and big box stores and plan your errands around dance times. Drop her off, go grocery shopping, pick her up and go home. Same with scouts.

 

[FlaRocky]

My bestfriend has 4, 3 girls-1boy. She is a supermom. Works fulltime schoolteacher and all the kids have after school stuff and I have no ideal how she does it all.

But I do know all the kids have chores with a list that gets checked off. Her oldest just turned 13, she is responsible for her room and her own laundry. And she helps prep meals. She also teaches all the kids how to wash the towels. So no excuses for no clean and folded towels.
Have a talk with DH about getting the kids to help more. Tell him you want to start teaching the kids how to do everything because you never know what might happen. Say you get sick for a week. The two oldest are old enough to learn how to work a crockpot, think simple pot of beans and ham. Frozen veggies soup. Just dump in pot with water and let cook. All of them are old enough to help with dishes. I remember as a kid standing on a chair to dry dishes then older brother would put them up.

PM me your number and I will give you a call with some info on some meals and stuff to help.



Maye

Ride the Glide....Got Gait....I do.....

 

[HeatherLynn]

Oh the kids have chores. They get up first thing and throw on work clothes. We have the cows, horses, goats and chickens to do first thing. Then its inside chores. Then breakfast and getting dressed for the day. Then I will be sending one off to preschool and the older 2 start their homeschooling. The kids do help. My husband helps too he just can't do much. He works and has 4 hours of commuting a day and he is building a barn right now so. That really crosses him off the chore chart. We have morning, afternoon and evening animal chores that they help out with a ton. They stink with laundry lol and mess up a bathroom quicker than anything but they do help with the farm chores.

I just think with so much on the daily to do list we are simply inefficient and unorganized. I woke up wicked early and in between laundry and cleaning I was checking out organization sites for homeschool moms. The kids being here 24/7 makes a lot of chaos. uggg. Anywho I am actually ditching my binders and created online folders for our school calendar, gradebooks, book lists, and chore charts. They are also stored on dropbox and not my computer so I can see them from anywhere. No more losing them if the computer crashes either. So first move was premaking meals yesterday and 2nd move is switching things to online. Maybe this will be enough to get us started toward some order.

Oh and i am in lust after looking at a site called I love organization. Never thought I would lust after a plastic bin storage system but oh it was a thing of beauty. Oh well off to do some more cleaning. I am shooting for spotless and uber ready for first day of school.