Opa's place -Where an old rooster visits with friends

[Opa]

I think my brakes have gone out.

Speaking of old, I've been listening the Concert for the Queen, and Paul McCarthy's voice sure hasn't aged well. Constantly going off key and screeching. Kind of pitiful but no one in the crowd seems to notice of care. To be his singing was an auditory assault.

 

[Highlander]

Sneak a quick glance at the concert and just when did Tom Jones turn into an old man? He still sings well and looks good but he is old. I remember hearing his first big hit What's new pussycat when I was stationed in Germany. That was 1965 so that wasn't really that long ago.

Sometimes it is almost scary how fast life has gone. There was a song not long ago about Living life in fast forward. It certainly does seem like that is what I have been doing.

Tom Jones is one of those guys that to me look better as an old fella than they did when they were younger!

 

[EweSheep]

Opa, It never ceases to amaze me how that the older I get, the faster time goes!

I'm sure there must be some "theory" or "postulate" to explain it..........I just know for me it's like reaching the top of a hill on a bike, starting down the other side, speeding up to mach speed and no matter how hard you are applying the brakes...........you just keep rolling faster and faster!

My Dad was saying the same thing!

When will the brakes fail???? When I hit 50? Sitting on the hill at 50, looking down don't look that pleasant!

 

[Opa]

Aging is not a pleasant prospect but I think that how you look at it has a great of bearing upon the quality of life. I know that my days are numbered but how many only God knows. Each morning if I am fortunate enough to still have a pulse I figure the most important aspect of the day has been handled. Howe the rest of the day goes is entirely up to me.

Hope's step father is resentful of his situation and some days I think he actually enjoys trying to make everyone around him as miserable as he is. Unfortunately Hope buys into his program and on many occasions come away from the facility crying. She also doesn't understand the fact that all of her stepfather's assets must be accounted for and now belong to the state. I've tried, to no avail, explaining that is how the state helps to pay for his care but she doesn't understand why they will be taking things that he had promised her.

All of the rigmarole of dealing with this has pointed out the fact that I need take the necessary actions to see that my estate, meager as it is, is dispersed in the manner in which I would like.

 

[EweSheep]

Opa, I am so sorry that Hope had to deal with all that. Could she get the things that he wants her to have or something she would like to have of his? Or was it all written down on his will?

I know it sucks when the state takes over. I don't think there is anything else they could have done for him if he would have stayed home but its the BEST place for him to be.

Don't procrasinate about getting things settled in your will. I remember hubby's grandpa and grandma, oh the fights between siblings...it was awful that it split up the family members and some of them have not seen each other for YEARS.

 

[Opa]

Unfortunately anything that has much financial value is considered an asset and must be appraised and then sold with monies going to the state. It's only right since the state is paying for his care but most of this could have been avoided with proper planning.

 

[EweSheep]

Why does it cost so much to die than to be born?

 

[rrrmamma]

Hi everyone, I'm in need of a little encouragement tomight. I am back in CA for a month taking care of my mom. She was refusinging to eat for the caregivers and causing all kinds of emergency phone calls to me in the middle of the night, ( three hour time difference) Well I'm here, but exhausted tonight. She woke me at midnight for me to change her diapers. She couldn't go back to sleep so I could hear her rattling around and raising and lowering her bed until she decided she needed her coffee and breakfast at 5 am. we had visitors all day off and on. She never got a nap. Fed her what she calls dinner. Two bites of food at 6:00. Tried having a phone conversation with my poor lonely husband and she was calling me for coffee. She thought it was morning. I need some sleep! Hoping she is so tired she will sleep through the night.
Thanks for letting me rant. Missing Ohio and my feathered kids. Opa, I need some of your words of wisdom. I justn want to get on a plane and go home. My brother has been at Sloan Kettering cancer center and Bethesda NIH all week on the referral of his CA oncologist. He won't tell me what his prognosis is. In the meantime he has not been taking care of Mom's bills. He took everything back home with him. I don''t sign on any of her accounts, I am starting to get collection calls. Feel like I am between a rock and a hard place.

 

[NotAFarm]

rrrmamma,

 

[1muttsfan]

rrrmamma, so sorry to hear that you are having such a sad time. My mom had to go through similar financial efforts for my Grannie - when my Aunt ran through all of Grannie's money paying her own bills she just stopped paying Grannie's, then moved away leaving my mom to take care of the mess. I know your mom would so much appreciate your efforts on her behalf if she was herself. And hopefully your brother will get some positive news as well. Thinking of you - Mary