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FK, in rereading this thread carefully, I think the people who took time out of their busy day yesterday to read your descriptions and genuinely felt that the cat needed help very urgently, deserve some defense. Please remember that you posted, presumably interested in opinions about what to do, and I'm sure most if not all opinions were sincerely given in the hopes of helping your cat. When people are urgently trying to help, sensing the dire nature of things, wanting to save the cat or at least spare it undue suffering, eager to reach you in time, their angst can come through in their writing. No reader would have been able to immediately tell from your earliest posts exactly how long the cat was in this condition, your ability or lack thereof to go to the vet, when you could get there, that you would put it down (vs. a vet) if need be etc etc etc. All the reader could glean was the fact that you said the cat was in bad shape and as it turned out, that was all too true. It only unfolded throughout the course of the post that you did not plan on getting the cat veterinary help, that you would put it down if you determined it was appropriate etc. - when suggestions were first offered by the readers, they did not know of your position on these things. To say the cat was not in bad pain before it died -- I'm sorry but to be injured or sick enough to die, a being has to be in a world of hurt. Cats just valiantly endure tremendous pain without making a fuss about it. That's what can make it hard sometimes for us humans to know they are in trouble early on. So no one would blame you for not noticing in the earliest stages of her injury/illness. No need to discount what she must have been feeling in order to be bad off enough to die.
Long story short, I wanted to say that people posting - most, if not all - really did/do care and offered their best advice they had to try to help your cat.
Now it's time to go back to the work that didn't get done yesterday in the hopes of helping your momma cat. Can't do this again today! Be well.
JJ