I am in need of advice. How do you teach a child kindness? I have a 4 your old son, who we adore. He is our second child and he is very loving, smart, active, and imaginative. He is very charming and a sight to see! He tells me that I am beautiful and that we wants to marry me & his sister He is very protective, like any lil mama's boy and we all love him very much. That being said~ My concern is that he has a very mean streak in him at times. If someone tries to talk to him or play with him, and he is not in the mood he is overly rude & tells them to "leave me alone" or "Stop!"or just gets downright nasty to them. He is unkind to his older sister, telling her that he doesnt like her or that she is stinky and to get away... We punish for bad behavior, but how do you punish emotions? Part of me (the pshyco mom) says that he has a right to let people know that he does not want to be bothered, but I cannot tolerate a nasty child. He doesnt seem concerned with how he makes people feel. I totally understand that he is only 4 but it breaks my heart to think that people may think him a brat because he is so harsh sometimes. I have started telling him that he is gentleman and I am now explaining what a gentleman does & doesnt do and it seems to be working but I am still in need of some suggestions... I normallly do not reach out to strangers like this, but I need some outside opinions... Thank you!!