Parents. Are Your Daughters Confident?

[Godsgrl]

I have one daughter, and she has more confidence than the rest of the house put together. I don't know how this happened, I am very shy (although working on it) and self conscious. But outgoing, confident, and sure of herself she is. She loves to perform, and is not ashamed to speak of her Lord, or to dance in public. She is going to go far in life, I am sure.

 

[yourbadd]

I am battling a weird problem with my oldest who's 11. She is over-confident in her intelligence and is quick to put others down when it comes to matters of the mind, however, she is under-confident on so many other ways. She gets embarrassed to sing along to the radio or cut up and dance silly with the rest of us. She uses very immature humor and stunts to gain attention instead of highlighting her strengths. She is quick to give up and say she can't do something. When she was much younger we made the mistake of telling her she was the smartest and most intelligent kid around and created this little egomaniac, but we're working to rein that in. She's an amazing kid and I hope and pray we do right by her before she hits those awful peer pressure teen years!!!

Our younger daughter is a great balance of confidence. She may act hesitant to try something but usually does and even if she doesn't get it right she has a blast trying!! She seems extremely sure of who she is and where she wants to go. Obviously, we learned a lot from past mistakes and are trying to keep her on a even keel.

I came from a dysfunctional family (who doesn't right!!) and know that I lack confidence. I dislike the way I look, I have extreme difficulty taking compliments, I second guess myself all the time. I am working on building myself up and actually hope one day to feel as good about myself as my younger daughter. My parents never pushed me to try new things or explore...they were too busy dealing with my deliquent older sister who spent more time in juvie and court than anywhere else. My brother and I were kinda pushed to the background most of the time. That's one aspect my husband and I take seriously....we make it a point to spend good one on one time with eachof our kids so they know they are valued!!