This door issue is pretty interesting. My bedroom doesn't have a door. Not because I was bad, just because the room wasn't meant to be a bedroom and has a funny shaped frame that can't have a door added. I never gave it a second thought until I read this thread. Why is it such a big screaming deal to have the door open? Good ventilation, if nothing else.
Parents who have full access to their kid's Facebook account?
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I visit here, Facebook, and a few other sites. I don't do dating sites, and nothing extreme or odd or anything to do with such...things. I've even gotten random instant messages with interesting context on them. It's just a fact of the internet.
I understand what you mean, but there are SO many factors here. Are they sending you these messages knowing that you are an adult, female, single/married/pregnant/whatever, or are they blindly fishing? Just because they message you doesn't mean they would message a kid.
The times I have been propositioned were not even by people I would call 'creeps'. I was on a dating website, they sent messages. They were to the point, politely asked a simple question, and I gave them a simple answer. There was no stalking or weirdness, they just said goodbye and I never heard from them again. They messaged me because I had a profile and I'm pretty attractive, not to toot my own horn but there you go. I am confident they would not have messaged me if I was a child.
It IS beyond sick to be sexually interested in children. This is pretty much universally agreed-upon. The world IS dangerous and creeps are out there for sure. The point I am trying to make is that it is sensationalized and not as widespread as you would think. You have to analyze these facts and decide what is right for you and your family. It is just risk analysis and what you are comfortable with. Do you never let your teen drive the car, use the toaster, play football? All these carry risks, we just decide how much to take vs. the payoff and we do it from a place of reason and logic, even though we hear every day that some kid wrapped his parents car around a tree, someone burned their house down when they left the toaster on, or the kid here in FL who died during football practice.
If I am wrong, please correct me, but it sounds like you dont have children? If you have a spare moment (all parents should do this, and non-parents too since many crimes are not JUST against children) PLEASE go tto the MEGANS LAW registery and look up the registered sex offenders in YOUR area, and your nearby area and then look a bit further, and a bit further, and THEN TELL ME that creeps and predators are not as widespread as we think. Seriously- look it up.
Also, is there a jail anywhere near you or your family? Well, then there are a whole bunch o creeps nearby who can walk right on down to the local library and be online and searching for you or your child in no time.
I visit here, Facebook, and a few other sites. I don't do dating sites, and nothing extreme or odd or anything to do with such...things. I've even gotten random instant messages with interesting context on them. It's just a fact of the internet.
I understand what you mean, but there are SO many factors here. Are they sending you these messages knowing that you are an adult, female, single/married/pregnant/whatever, or are they blindly fishing? Just because they message you doesn't mean they would message a kid.
The times I have been propositioned were not even by people I would call 'creeps'. I was on a dating website, they sent messages. They were to the point, politely asked a simple question, and I gave them a simple answer. There was no stalking or weirdness, they just said goodbye and I never heard from them again. They messaged me because I had a profile and I'm pretty attractive, not to toot my own horn but there you go. I am confident they would not have messaged me if I was a child.
It IS beyond sick to be sexually interested in children. This is pretty much universally agreed-upon. The world IS dangerous and creeps are out there for sure. The point I am trying to make is that it is sensationalized and not as widespread as you would think. You have to analyze these facts and decide what is right for you and your family. It is just risk analysis and what you are comfortable with. Do you never let your teen drive the car, use the toaster, play football? All these carry risks, we just decide how much to take vs. the payoff and we do it from a place of reason and logic, even though we hear every day that some kid wrapped his parents car around a tree, someone burned their house down when they left the toaster on, or the kid here in FL who died during football practice.
If I am wrong, please correct me, but it sounds like you dont have children? If you have a spare moment (all parents should do this, and non-parents too since many crimes are not JUST against children) PLEASE go tto the MEGANS LAW registery and look up the registered sex offenders in YOUR area, and your nearby area and then look a bit further, and a bit further, and THEN TELL ME that creeps and predators are not as widespread as we think. Seriously- look it up.
Also, is there a jail anywhere near you or your family? Well, then there are a whole bunch o creeps nearby who can walk right on down to the local library and be online and searching for you or your child in no time.
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My parents don't monitor mine. I feel my parents are involved. They have facebooks I "friended" them. I play online computer games with my dad. But they never grabbed my computer and did a history check of all my searches. Cause they taught me better and trust me. If I got a virus on my computer that messed it up so bad I couldn't use it my parents would look at it as I learned a lesson. Cause now I am out of a computer unless I get rid of the virus myself by using anti-virus programs.
My parents don't monitor mine. I feel my parents are involved. They have facebooks I "friended" them. I play online computer games with my dad. But they never grabbed my computer and did a history check of all my searches. Cause they taught me better and trust me. If I got a virus on my computer that messed it up so bad I couldn't use it my parents would look at it as I learned a lesson. Cause now I am out of a computer unless I get rid of the virus myself by using anti-virus programs.
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Cause you are a good parent.
Cause you are a good parent.
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My neighbor is a registered sex offender. I live 15 minutes from the county jail too. I don't stay inside all day because he is my neighbor I go outside and have been since I can remember. I just use what I use in real life to avoid creeps as I do on the internet.
My neighbor is a registered sex offender. I live 15 minutes from the county jail too. I don't stay inside all day because he is my neighbor I go outside and have been since I can remember. I just use what I use in real life to avoid creeps as I do on the internet.
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I've been propositioned before as well, but only once or twice, on dating websites.
I have heard you're a loopy one Em, but just where are you trekking around on the internet?
I understand what you mean, but there are SO many factors here. Are they sending you these messages knowing that you are an adult, female, single/married/pregnant/whatever, or are they blindly fishing? Just because they message you doesn't mean they would message a kid.
The times I have been propositioned were not even by people I would call 'creeps'. I was on a dating website, they sent messages. They were to the point, politely asked a simple question, and I gave them a simple answer. There was no stalking or weirdness, they just said goodbye and I never heard from them again. They messaged me because I had a profile and I'm pretty attractive, not to toot my own horn but there you go. I am confident they would not have messaged me if I was a child.
It IS beyond sick to be sexually interested in children. This is pretty much universally agreed-upon. The world IS dangerous and creeps are out there for sure. The point I am trying to make is that it is sensationalized and not as widespread as you would think. You have to analyze these facts and decide what is right for you and your family. It is just risk analysis and what you are comfortable with. Do you never let your teen drive the car, use the toaster, play football? All these carry risks, we just decide how much to take vs. the payoff and we do it from a place of reason and logic, even though we hear every day that some kid wrapped his parents car around a tree, someone burned their house down when they left the toaster on, or the kid here in FL who died during football practice.
OOh dear, it IS as widespead as we think. See i work with sex offenders, yep.... there sure are LOTS of them, just in MY small area.
Just because its not happend to you, does not mean its not out there and close by too. If you only knew ...
And for SHAME on the parents that dont monitor their kids internet interactions.
Anyways, this isnt JUST about sexual predators here... its simply about being a good, INVOLVED parent.
I have checked out the sexual predator map for my area, and there are indeed a lot of them. The point I am making is that the media would have you believe that everyone you see walking around is a pedophile and a threat to your child. They actually represent only a small percentage of the population.
When I was a secretary at a family law office we had a lot of cases that involved teenagers. They would be dating and boom, one would hit 18 while the other was still 17. It was automatically statutory rape, even if it was consentual and all a parent had to do if they did not like who their daughter or son was dating was file charges. They would then have to register as a sex offender and were branded with it for LIFE. I thought it was terribly unfair. There are a LOT of cases like this. It was even on Law and Order SVU.
Anyway, I'm just trying to illustrate that not all the people who have to register as sex offenders had anything to do with children. We are talking about a very specific group of sick people who actually only make up a very small percentage of the population. Do you need to be vigilant and involved? Absolutely. Do you need to be helicopter mom? No, and there is a good amount of research indicating that it is harmful. Protect them from real threats, not perceived ones is all I'm saying.
I've been propositioned before as well, but only once or twice, on dating websites.
I have heard you're a loopy one Em, but just where are you trekking around on the internet?
I understand what you mean, but there are SO many factors here. Are they sending you these messages knowing that you are an adult, female, single/married/pregnant/whatever, or are they blindly fishing? Just because they message you doesn't mean they would message a kid.
The times I have been propositioned were not even by people I would call 'creeps'. I was on a dating website, they sent messages. They were to the point, politely asked a simple question, and I gave them a simple answer. There was no stalking or weirdness, they just said goodbye and I never heard from them again. They messaged me because I had a profile and I'm pretty attractive, not to toot my own horn but there you go. I am confident they would not have messaged me if I was a child.
It IS beyond sick to be sexually interested in children. This is pretty much universally agreed-upon. The world IS dangerous and creeps are out there for sure. The point I am trying to make is that it is sensationalized and not as widespread as you would think. You have to analyze these facts and decide what is right for you and your family. It is just risk analysis and what you are comfortable with. Do you never let your teen drive the car, use the toaster, play football? All these carry risks, we just decide how much to take vs. the payoff and we do it from a place of reason and logic, even though we hear every day that some kid wrapped his parents car around a tree, someone burned their house down when they left the toaster on, or the kid here in FL who died during football practice.
OOh dear, it IS as widespead as we think. See i work with sex offenders, yep.... there sure are LOTS of them, just in MY small area.
Just because its not happend to you, does not mean its not out there and close by too. If you only knew ...
And for SHAME on the parents that dont monitor their kids internet interactions.
Anyways, this isnt JUST about sexual predators here... its simply about being a good, INVOLVED parent.
I have checked out the sexual predator map for my area, and there are indeed a lot of them. The point I am making is that the media would have you believe that everyone you see walking around is a pedophile and a threat to your child. They actually represent only a small percentage of the population.
When I was a secretary at a family law office we had a lot of cases that involved teenagers. They would be dating and boom, one would hit 18 while the other was still 17. It was automatically statutory rape, even if it was consentual and all a parent had to do if they did not like who their daughter or son was dating was file charges. They would then have to register as a sex offender and were branded with it for LIFE. I thought it was terribly unfair. There are a LOT of cases like this. It was even on Law and Order SVU.
Anyway, I'm just trying to illustrate that not all the people who have to register as sex offenders had anything to do with children. We are talking about a very specific group of sick people who actually only make up a very small percentage of the population. Do you need to be vigilant and involved? Absolutely. Do you need to be helicopter mom? No, and there is a good amount of research indicating that it is harmful. Protect them from real threats, not perceived ones is all I'm saying.
I have all of DD's account info. And I do check it, and she knows it.
She is a minor and sometime's they dont use sound judgement, and she is a very good young lady, honor roll, band. She is going into HS with credits, and taking college courses next year.
But it is my duty because I love her, not because I do not trust her because I do. It is my duty to protect her and point out anything that might cause me alarm. But we all have accounts, she is on all of ours as friends and most of her friends are on mine too.
Cyberspace is still too new in my opinion not to watch out for your kid's.
She is a minor and sometime's they dont use sound judgement, and she is a very good young lady, honor roll, band. She is going into HS with credits, and taking college courses next year.
But it is my duty because I love her, not because I do not trust her because I do. It is my duty to protect her and point out anything that might cause me alarm. But we all have accounts, she is on all of ours as friends and most of her friends are on mine too.
Cyberspace is still too new in my opinion not to watch out for your kid's.
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OOh dear, it IS as widespead as we think. See i work with sex offenders, yep.... there sure are LOTS of them, just in MY small area.
Just because its not happend to you, does not mean its not out there and close by too. If you only knew ...
And for SHAME on the parents that dont monitor their kids internet interactions.
Anyways, this isnt JUST about sexual predators here... its simply about being a good, INVOLVED parent.
I have checked out the sexual predator map for my area, and there are indeed a lot of them. The point I am making is that the media would have you believe that everyone you see walking around is a pedophile and a threat to your child. They actually represent only a small percentage of the population.
When I was a secretary at a family law office we had a lot of cases that involved teenagers. They would be dating and boom, one would hit 18 while the other was still 17. It was automatically statutory rape, even if it was consentual and all a parent had to do if they did not like who their daughter or son was dating was file charges. They would then have to register as a sex offender and were branded with it for LIFE. I thought it was terribly unfair. There are a LOT of cases like this. It was even on Law and Order SVU.
Anyway, I'm just trying to illustrate that not all the people who have to register as sex offenders had anything to do with children. We are talking about a very specific group of sick people who actually only make up a very small percentage of the population. Do you need to be vigilant and involved? Absolutely. Do you need to be helicopter mom? No, and there is a good amount of research indicating that it is harmful. Protect them from real threats, not perceived ones is all I'm saying.
Sure, i get what you mean. I dont think any of the moms here are helicopter moms at all though. Just involved like a normal parent should be.
OOh dear, it IS as widespead as we think. See i work with sex offenders, yep.... there sure are LOTS of them, just in MY small area.
Just because its not happend to you, does not mean its not out there and close by too. If you only knew ...
And for SHAME on the parents that dont monitor their kids internet interactions.
Anyways, this isnt JUST about sexual predators here... its simply about being a good, INVOLVED parent.
I have checked out the sexual predator map for my area, and there are indeed a lot of them. The point I am making is that the media would have you believe that everyone you see walking around is a pedophile and a threat to your child. They actually represent only a small percentage of the population.
When I was a secretary at a family law office we had a lot of cases that involved teenagers. They would be dating and boom, one would hit 18 while the other was still 17. It was automatically statutory rape, even if it was consentual and all a parent had to do if they did not like who their daughter or son was dating was file charges. They would then have to register as a sex offender and were branded with it for LIFE. I thought it was terribly unfair. There are a LOT of cases like this. It was even on Law and Order SVU.
Anyway, I'm just trying to illustrate that not all the people who have to register as sex offenders had anything to do with children. We are talking about a very specific group of sick people who actually only make up a very small percentage of the population. Do you need to be vigilant and involved? Absolutely. Do you need to be helicopter mom? No, and there is a good amount of research indicating that it is harmful. Protect them from real threats, not perceived ones is all I'm saying.
Sure, i get what you mean. I dont think any of the moms here are helicopter moms at all though. Just involved like a normal parent should be.
I have not read all the posts but for the teens and parents out there I wanna share a story. A few years back I was what is considered a gamer. I spent a couple to a few hours each night on a MMORPG. I already had 2 kids at this point. I thought of myself as pretty computer savy. My husband was in IT also so I had a bit of side exposure. Anywho I was forever chatting with people either through pm's or on a voip system while playing. I was pretty careful to be super vague. False name, never tell my location, blah blah blah. BUT somehow and I still cannot figure out how I leaked too much. Thankfully it was a safe person who pointed this out. He turned out to be ok, I did not know he was at the time. He put out the dare that give him 15 min and just with what he knew about me he could find me. It did not even take him that long. I never remember giving him this information. Some was found I guess by my Voip account, he must have talked to real life friends, and anything I may have let slip but he knew my real name and address. That fast. I was freaked. He didn't announce it just asked me to confirm that he had been right and made a point to everyone to be a bit more careful with our information.
I am still a bit freaked that I could be found that fast. I thought I was careful. I was an adult, experienced and still I was just not careful enough. Parents are there to protect. Protect from their kids lack of experience. Protect from a strangers dangerous intentions. Protect from the cute guys hormones. We do what we have to and its done out of love. It may not always be right, we will make mistakes, but all we can do is our best.
I am still a bit freaked that I could be found that fast. I thought I was careful. I was an adult, experienced and still I was just not careful enough. Parents are there to protect. Protect from their kids lack of experience. Protect from a strangers dangerous intentions. Protect from the cute guys hormones. We do what we have to and its done out of love. It may not always be right, we will make mistakes, but all we can do is our best.
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Do you really know who this guy is? Does your friend? Many predators pretend to be someone else on the internet. They can be very dangerous.
Do you really know who this guy is? Does your friend? Many predators pretend to be someone else on the internet. They can be very dangerous.
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