Thankshope things work out for you.
Thanks. I plan on getting more, Motorcyclechick "convinced" me "Gavin" needs more. lolNo problem Hon. I know all about dealing with exes.You worry about that for now. I always have SOMETHING hatching if you decide you need birds later![]()
I just don't get it. The paternal bio-material-donor (I'm being as nice as I can) doesn't see, ask to see or even ask about Gavin for 3.5 yrs, then files for primary custody (receives joint legal and visitation), sees Gavin for less than 1.5 yrs, then VOLUNTARILY stops visitation. Now that things are finally falling into place on my end (and it's been over 2 yrs since he saw/had ANY contact with Gavin) he sends me a friend request on facebook (I blocked him). I just have a sinking feeling he's going to want to see Gavin again and that's going to foul up the 6 mos required for abandonment (if the bugger won't sign off when we file for my fiance to adopt Gavin). Gavin doesn't want to see him (hasn't for nearly 2 years) and wants to have my fiance's last name, and don't get me started on the counseling so Gavin no longer thought it was his fault.

It would be mildly understandable if he lived on the other side of the state or even out of state, and at least asked about Gavin. But he lives an hour away, and there's no communication of any kind from him, until this crud tonight. I need to talk to my lawyer and find out IF we can begin the adoption process as soon as my fiance gets home, or if we need to wait until we're married.
Sorry for the rant/back story, I just don't want anyone thinking I'm one of those parent's that prevents the visitations. If he would have stayed in Gavin's life I'd feel differently (I was very open, [honestly happy at the time] to him being involved and very accommodating as far as pick ups, drop offs, and all that stuff), but I refuse to have my son played with and hurt by a supposed adult. I'm in full blown momma bear mode because of this

Again sorry for the airing of laundry but this is one of those things I need to vent about, even if it's to people I haven't met (minus 3). And of course my family is visiting NH for my one cousin's graduation, so only one here is Gavin and I can't rant to him, it wouldn't be right.
I think I'll watch Predator, Predator 2, or Predators to calm down......ah calming down just thinking of it.
Yay, my sense of humor is returning to it's deranged self.

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