we just pay as needed all our money goes into a joint account. I have a set amount that dh "gives" me every paycheck to cover expenses. I only make about 200 a month so really my money is just gravy or for any extra bills that come up.
We try not to do the yours and mine thing - I was a stay at home mom for 8 years and really still am so that doesnt work here for us. Your best bet is to make a good list of all your expenses and a little extra just in case and then if you have to split them up. Make everything OURS - not yours and mine dont say well its your horse so you pay for the feed just generalize it all feed for animals is x amount of $ per month and that is what goes into the pot. I dont know this works for us we dont touch the bills account unless we consult first and then we take as for any extra in our own accounts we dont question what the other spends. Dh grew up in a yours and mine house and the way we do it now was hard for him at first but now he is fine with it he knows if he hands over his paycheck everything is taken care of and then we get to spend on fun stuff and he gets a good share just to spend on himself.
This works for us it may not work for you but you definitly need to have a talk with him and discuss options of what you would like to do.
We try not to do the yours and mine thing - I was a stay at home mom for 8 years and really still am so that doesnt work here for us. Your best bet is to make a good list of all your expenses and a little extra just in case and then if you have to split them up. Make everything OURS - not yours and mine dont say well its your horse so you pay for the feed just generalize it all feed for animals is x amount of $ per month and that is what goes into the pot. I dont know this works for us we dont touch the bills account unless we consult first and then we take as for any extra in our own accounts we dont question what the other spends. Dh grew up in a yours and mine house and the way we do it now was hard for him at first but now he is fine with it he knows if he hands over his paycheck everything is taken care of and then we get to spend on fun stuff and he gets a good share just to spend on himself.
This works for us it may not work for you but you definitly need to have a talk with him and discuss options of what you would like to do.