Well, to make a very long story short as I can....
I have an 18 year old daughter (not by my husband) with mental disabilities.
We have a 7 year old son, together.
He has a horse.
I have a mule, dog and chickens
I make ~ 1,100 a month
I pay all the bills, house payment, light bill, loan payment, health insurance, life insurance, my auto and home insurance, food, vet care, child school expense, child Christmas expense, property taxes, up keep on the house, and health insurance co-payments (drugs, hospitalizations, etc)
He makes ~1200 a month (just started making this amount last September after I found him a job, he was without work for a year and a half in which I paid everything and he paid me nothing)
He pays dental insurance, his auto insurance, and me $400 a month.
I recently sold my Mule because I could not afford the hay and grain which my husband and I split the cost of. I had to get a loan this year as our air conditioner went out (got a new one) and then the septic tank needed repaired (drain lines replaced).
I feel used. I'm angry, but I don't know how to approach this with him. I think he should pay more. I think marriage is to help one another. I need help, I wish I had $600 or $800 a month in which I could blow and do whatever. I feel jealous of his financial freedom, I had to sell my Mule at a lower price than what she was worth. He has his horse priced so high he will never sell it. I fee sick to my stomach, I love him but I'm used up. He does not beat me or abuse me. He does his chores around the house and is an all around good guy. We just have this one problem, I created. I'm a wimp, I told him to just give me $100 a week when we first got together 8 years ago. He wasn't making much and I did want to take all of his money.
Something else to take into effect. It's my house, my property and my barn. Of course if I die, all my property would legally be his. What I'm trying to say is I had these things before we got married, except the barn which I paid for and we built together to house his horse.
What do I do? My sister says if he doesn't help financially more that I should ask him to leave. I would be better off without his financial burden. I'm not talking about divorce but just asking him to leave. I can't afford a divorce.
Thanks, Melissa
I have an 18 year old daughter (not by my husband) with mental disabilities.
We have a 7 year old son, together.
He has a horse.
I have a mule, dog and chickens
I make ~ 1,100 a month
I pay all the bills, house payment, light bill, loan payment, health insurance, life insurance, my auto and home insurance, food, vet care, child school expense, child Christmas expense, property taxes, up keep on the house, and health insurance co-payments (drugs, hospitalizations, etc)
He makes ~1200 a month (just started making this amount last September after I found him a job, he was without work for a year and a half in which I paid everything and he paid me nothing)
He pays dental insurance, his auto insurance, and me $400 a month.
I recently sold my Mule because I could not afford the hay and grain which my husband and I split the cost of. I had to get a loan this year as our air conditioner went out (got a new one) and then the septic tank needed repaired (drain lines replaced).
I feel used. I'm angry, but I don't know how to approach this with him. I think he should pay more. I think marriage is to help one another. I need help, I wish I had $600 or $800 a month in which I could blow and do whatever. I feel jealous of his financial freedom, I had to sell my Mule at a lower price than what she was worth. He has his horse priced so high he will never sell it. I fee sick to my stomach, I love him but I'm used up. He does not beat me or abuse me. He does his chores around the house and is an all around good guy. We just have this one problem, I created. I'm a wimp, I told him to just give me $100 a week when we first got together 8 years ago. He wasn't making much and I did want to take all of his money.
Something else to take into effect. It's my house, my property and my barn. Of course if I die, all my property would legally be his. What I'm trying to say is I had these things before we got married, except the barn which I paid for and we built together to house his horse.
What do I do? My sister says if he doesn't help financially more that I should ask him to leave. I would be better off without his financial burden. I'm not talking about divorce but just asking him to leave. I can't afford a divorce.
Thanks, Melissa