Possibility of my son attending school with a murderer

[CrazyChickieMama]

I see this becoming heated and locked in a little while....woosh...

 

[farrier!]

I was pushed into homeschooling my daughter. Decided to do it and the next day filled out the form to take her out of public school. I was totally unprepared. It was the best thing we ever did.

Homeschooling is great! Go for it.

 

[farrier!]

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I wish all teachers had the commitment you do. I am so glad their are caring people who will help kids but at the same time I am so happy my daughter is not in public school anymore....

 

[thechickenchick]

I have tried to read each and every post. There are a lot of good points being made for both sides of this issue. I do have to say that as a parent I would not want this child to attend school with mine. The simple truth is you never know what may set him off again. If I did let my child attend that schoola nd something happened to my child. I could not live with myself because it was me who let him go to that school.

 

[michelle1017]

I don't know this story, but regardless, the thing that bothers me most is that it just happened in November. That is not enough time, in my opinion, to say he is ready to be "normal" again. It may possibly just be teaching him that doing anything "bad" (including murder) has very little consequence. He is inconvenience for a few months and sent right back to school. Heck yes, with that punishment, he is a BIG danger to everyone involved in the school!

 

[kees]

We all make mistakes. Hopefully, we learn from them as time passes. People who care about us may give us the benefit of the doubt as they watch us go through the painful learning processes.

Change takes time; sometimes it takes people a lifetime. For others, it may never happen. Change cannot be rushed, nor realistically prognosticated.

Few people would ever want a child to have a miserable life because of early transgressions and the very strong possiblity of abuse and/or neglect. However, given the amount of time that has transpired during these incidents, 4 months, it seems premature to assume that the boy is ready to be mainstreamed into the general population.

As previous posters have voiced, it's better for the boy to start anew in a different community. It would be judicious for him to remain in a monitored setting with a lot of academic support, play therapy, physical activity and opportunities for interaction with both adults and children in a MONITORED SETTING. As the boy goes through the healing process, he should be placed in the least restrictive environments over time.

Whatever caused this boy to behave in this manner didn't happen overnight; it's unrealistic to think that he can heal in such a short amount of time.

I speak as both a parent and an educator.

Suzy

 

[morelcabin]

Pm'ed you instead:>)

 

[CovenantCreek]

Having followed the case as closely as I could from out here, I'm appalled to learn that he could possibly end up back in a "normal" life so soon after the premeditated murder of his father and their roommate. Public schools are no place for a kid with mental health issues of any kind. There's just too much stress -- do they really think his peers won't know what he did and/or will refrain from harassing him about it? I have a really hard time respecting defense attorneys who seem to disregard common sense.

 

[redhen]

when he reloaded the shotgun and called the roomate to come into the house..that is not normal, that is not acting in self defense..that was a calculatd pre-planned move.... and granted he is young..and so he may not really totally understand the full impact of what he was planning...but he did plan it.

 

[Sammysmom]

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Let me just state up front, I do not know if there was any molestation of any kind. All I know is that the boy has said that after 1000 spankings, he wasn't going to take anymore. The boy's father was remarried. The stepmother was at the grocery store at the time of the murders. The boy's biological mother lived in Mississippi at the time but did have visitation. The two victims worked together at the local powerplant. The boarder was renting a room as the rest of his family lived in Mesa, AZ at the time. Keep in mind that the weapon used was fired ten times. This gun is a single shot rifle that had to be reloaded each of those ten times. I do not know if he is in detention right now. I do know that he has recently been seen out shopping at a local store with family members. Go figure!

According to the plea agreement, he is on probation until the age of 18. He also must have a psych evaluation at the ages of 9, 12, 15 and 17 1/2 years. If, after any of these psych evaluations, it is determined that he is no longer a threat to himself or anyone else, he could be allowed back in school. Given how late in the school year it is, it is unlikely that he would be allowed back before this school year ends. Small comfort, that!