let me tell you a story, i was 31, pregnant, with the man i thought i would live all my days with. the baby comes and he kills himself. here comes a man 25 yrs, my senior. no way right? wrong completly different backgrounds. he was poor and uneducated, i was making ends meet and doing well for myself. what did i see? morals. some thing i hadnt seen in a long time. he is 25 yrs, older then me and a stroke victim but he brings me coffee. thats what you have to do. you have to bring the coffee. understand?