Prayer for a Member - Lost her daughter Update Pg 16

[chixie]

I am continueing to pray for all of you... my friends daughter shot herself when she was 13 infront of about 100 kids(fellow students and friends) everyone thoght it was a play gun and she was joking)... I have seen what her parents went thru and they are no longer together... make sure you and your dh are there for each other and support each other...and give it time.. you don't have to deal with cleaning your daughters room until you are completely ready... my heart goes out to your family.. I wish there was moe that I could do for you.. many hugs coming your way

 

[Zookeeper9000]

I would talk to her about not making any major decissions in the first year. If she still wants a sibling in the mean time maybe becoming a big sister to a child in need might help them both out. There are a lot of programs out there now in need of mentors. It might help your daughter to mentor a younger child right now. Give her something to think of other than the grief she has to handle.

Just a thought

 

[wegotchickens]

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We had exactly that talk, about waiting a year and learning more about the Big Sisters / Big Brothers organization.

Also, my sister has a daughter who is an only child and always will be since sis can't have any more kids. So I'm going to arrange more get-togethers so these cousins can be closer. They live 9 hours away, so it won't be easy, but I think it could be good for both of them.

Mom has to leave today, and Cassie clearly isn't ready to be home alone after school. Today a friend is riding home with her, and I'll take them to the fair. Tomorrow she has counseling, and Friday she has an appointment to get her eyes checked.
But I guess I will be leaving work early for another couple of weeks rather than let Cassie get off the bus alone. I will check and see if there's an after-school art program she could join. I love where I work, I love my job. But I may need to make some changes if leaving early becomes a problem. Right now they are so VERY supportive though. Another blessing in the midst of all this pain.

chixie, I can't imagine the horror they all felt when that poor girl did that. Wow.
My DH is awesome, and we do talk a lot and cuddle and are trying our best to stay tight through all this. He is awesomely supportive, and trying really hard to be what I need.
I will keep in touch with Kerry's friends as best I can, too. After being around them and hearing about them almost constantly for YEARS, missing them is part of the void I feel. I'm glad we have a memorial planned for March already. I know I will see them and hear from them soon.

 

[wegotchickens]

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Wow! I wouldn't have seen that one coming. Not this soon anyway. I wish I could ease some of the pain that you all are feeling. Poor Cassie

I should've seen it coming. Cassie asked for a baby brother from the age of 5 until a couple of years ago. I just didn't expect her to express the reasons why so very clearly and with so much pain.

I told her to focus on silkies on the short-term, a long-haired guinea pig sometime next year (her birthday is in Jan). She said okay, but she'd like to have a sibling before she turns 15 (Jan 2011).



Thanks for the prayers Debi. I think we will need them for a long time to come.
I can understand the fear you feel for your stepson. Sounds like he came very close to leaving you all. I hope he continues to do well and realizes the value of life.

 

[Chic-n-farmer]

You can not imagine how often you are in my thoughts.

My brother shot himself 6 years ago today.

I am praying for your family.

 

[wegotchickens]

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I'm so sorry.

 

[Smitty's Farm]

Hey Lori! You & your family are in my thoughts daily! Still sending many hugs your way. ((((((Hugs)))))

Uncle Tony is here visiting from New York, so we have been so busy entertaining him and DD has been hogging her lap top a lot the past few weeks w/ school projects...Oh the nerve of her to do her homework. LOL!!!!!

Anyway, I just wanted you to know how much I'm thinking of you and miss our conversations. I have so much to write you. I am so sorry to hear about Cassie's show bird.

I think it's great idea to hatch out some loveable huggable Silkies for a project for you & Cassie to do together. I know it won't replace a child, but I always feel so much better after getting some chicken love!

I want to let everybody else know that I'm so sorry about the loss of their loved ones. I've lost many family members, but I would think losing a child or a spouse would be the worst. Many hugs go out to everyone!!!!!

Hang in there!

 

[vnploveschickens]

I cannot imagine your pain. Its encouraging that you, DH & Cassie are going to group meetings and counselling. Take it day by day.
Hug each other often. Be good to each other. Be good to yourselves.

My heart goes out to everyone who has lost someone.

Val

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

Lori-

I will continue praying for you, Cassie, your DH and the answers you need. I pray God will hold you and your family close as you begin to pick up the peices. I am glad to hear that you and DH are communicating, it is the foundation for any relationship- especially in the worst of times. Cassie sounds like she is being very brave- as are you. Don't worry about tidying up the room- maybe you could save it for a project that you and Cass can do together- when you both are ready. Who cares if it is a week from now or a year from now?
Anyways- I haven't taken you out of my thoughts, and especially not out of my prayers- and I will have my church continue to pray for you and your family. In God's love and God Bless-

Terrah

 

[Whispering Winds]

Cassie, do you think there might be a teacher in the school who let your daughter stay with her and maybe "help" in the classroom? Or, a grade school teacher who might need some extra hands? I know my boy's teacher is desperate for mothers to come in and make copies and do things like that to help keep her current and ready to start the next week. I am so sorry for your loss, cannot imagine the grief and hurt you all have been through. You sound so strong and focused, that its going to help everyone in the family, but just be sure and take a moment or two for yourself once in awhile. It's also a blessing that your place of employment are good and kind and understanding. Is it the kind of job you could go in a little earlier and get off in time to be home for the bus? Thoughts and prayers coming your way!!