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I certainly do NOT want to alienate hubby. I would never ever tell him to butt out. He has been awesome and supportive through all the rest of this. That was why I was looking for additional input from you all. Was hoping I could find a compromise that would make everyone a little happier.
I talked to my old divorce attorney, since I figured he could give me an idea of what to do or where to go from here. No charge at this time, and he was actually very understanding about DH's position. I had worked for this attorney YEARS ago, so he offered to tell me what to do and what forms to fill out so that I can keep costs down.
He also gave me some things to ask for and responses to watch out about.
I am sooo glad I called him. And since it's free (so far) I don't think DH will be too upset. And with what I've learned, I think I can make him see that this may be absolutely necessary in order to do what's best for my kids!
I have filed for survivor benefits. Didn't get much, since I have to make less than $14K a year to get the whole amount. If I lose my job that will be a fall-back position.
I cannot leave work to be there for the showing: My boss is off today and he specifically asked me to be here. He's been very supportive through all this and I love my job and the people I work with.
Plus, my attorney said the title can't clear until the probate is resolved so he thinks I'll have time to approach this matter. Also, he thinks the attorney they met with has probably told them the same. There's a series of notifications that are required before the probate can even progress.
And this potential buyer is wanting a no realtor involved, cash-only type of deal. Entirely too shady for me!! But my lawyer says to relax on that, the underwriters and title guys will catch that one!
I am now feeling a little more secure than I did 2 hours ago.
I am still really ticked off that they expected to not only blind-side me with all this, but also leave their 2 teens unsupervised at my house! My kids are good kids and I trust them home alone. I do NOT trust the cousin and have never met her boyfriend.
I will remain calm when discussing all this with the ex-in-laws. Even if they are buttheads, I will remain calm. I will learn all that I can, from what they do and don't tell me. And then I will report it all to my attorney and see what's next.
Thanks, ya'll. You made me see some things a different way. I only want what's best for my kids. I'm starting to suspect that my in-laws see things differently, and that's really sad.
I talked to my old divorce attorney, since I figured he could give me an idea of what to do or where to go from here. No charge at this time, and he was actually very understanding about DH's position. I had worked for this attorney YEARS ago, so he offered to tell me what to do and what forms to fill out so that I can keep costs down.
He also gave me some things to ask for and responses to watch out about.
I am sooo glad I called him. And since it's free (so far) I don't think DH will be too upset. And with what I've learned, I think I can make him see that this may be absolutely necessary in order to do what's best for my kids!
I have filed for survivor benefits. Didn't get much, since I have to make less than $14K a year to get the whole amount. If I lose my job that will be a fall-back position.
I cannot leave work to be there for the showing: My boss is off today and he specifically asked me to be here. He's been very supportive through all this and I love my job and the people I work with.
Plus, my attorney said the title can't clear until the probate is resolved so he thinks I'll have time to approach this matter. Also, he thinks the attorney they met with has probably told them the same. There's a series of notifications that are required before the probate can even progress.
And this potential buyer is wanting a no realtor involved, cash-only type of deal. Entirely too shady for me!! But my lawyer says to relax on that, the underwriters and title guys will catch that one!
I am now feeling a little more secure than I did 2 hours ago.
I am still really ticked off that they expected to not only blind-side me with all this, but also leave their 2 teens unsupervised at my house! My kids are good kids and I trust them home alone. I do NOT trust the cousin and have never met her boyfriend.
I will remain calm when discussing all this with the ex-in-laws. Even if they are buttheads, I will remain calm. I will learn all that I can, from what they do and don't tell me. And then I will report it all to my attorney and see what's next.
Thanks, ya'll. You made me see some things a different way. I only want what's best for my kids. I'm starting to suspect that my in-laws see things differently, and that's really sad.
