pushy church lady

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There are pushy people everywhere, and sadly, church memberships are not exempt. Please do not judge the whole church by one rude person.

This reminds me of salespeople who always called at dinnertime before the Do Not Call registry and caller ID. Politely, we would say, "Thank you but I am not interested. Please remove me from your call list." When they persisted, and some always did, we would say, "I don't want to be as rude as you are but I am hanging up now. Goodbye."

As others have suggested, you may want to have a discussion with your spouse about this. I attend church regularly but my husband does not. There were people like the woman who called you at the church we attended as a family when our kids were growing up who totally turned him off. Maybe when she calls again you could mention to her that if you ever entertained the notion of attending, she dispelled that notion with her call.

These days I go to a lively Baptist church where the people are friendly, but respect your decision to be as active or inactive as you are comfortable with. So, I continue to invite him to come along but when he declines I respect his decision. Nothing would please me more than to have him next to me at worship, and I believe that when "the moon is in the seventh house and Jupiter aligns with Mars"
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(or the Lord moves him in that direction) he will be there, and not before.
 
As a believer I understand why the woman called the OP and it may have seemed pushy. A believer is a son/daughter of God a non-believer is not and will respond/act accordingly. Maybe some day the OP will find it in her heart to see the good that her family has at church despite the "pushy people".
 
My pastor said something on a similar subject a couple of Sundays ago. The gist of it was that while it is wonderful to share our faith and encourage people to come to our church, Jesus didn't chase people down and hound them to follow Him so we shouldn't, either!
 
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Agnostic here and I do believe that he would not have pushed people, people motivate themselves to see what he was "made of" and what kind of teachings he had to say to them. If one WANTS to go to church, they would.

I would never push anyone to go if they do not want to do anything. It can be church, events or going out with friends.
 
My dad is one of those people. I have my own beliefs but he still likes me to go with him and my step mom. I never really would except for easter maybe. Then one year on his birthday he told me the only thing he wanted from me was for me to go to church on holidays with him. So now i feel guilty and usually do.
 
As a believer I understand why the woman called the OP and it may have seemed pushy. A believer is a son/daughter of God a non-believer is not and will respond/act accordingly. Maybe some day the OP will find it in her heart to see the good that her family has at church despite the "pushy people".

I then assume that it is okay with you to have people of a different religion or people who do not believe in a god/s to call you and tell you to get dressed and be at their gathering at 5? I assume you would find it in your heart to see the good they are doing, despite the 'pushy' people? Most likely you would support your kids if they wished to attend because of the good they could get from it?​
 
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Wow! When DH was in Kuwait during Thanksgiving, no church folk called me for dinner! I must REALLY be an backsidehole! 300 member church too! I mostly got calls to be invited to Beauti-control/Mary Kay parties. Needless to say I don't go anymore. Why? I can't hear t(yes I have hearing aids), I have AD/HD, and I'm an introvert! SOOOO by the time I can hear what people say, I've forgotten it and I REALLY can't wait to get home!!!!
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It is one thing to invite, and something else again to demand. However, I would not put attending a Thanksgiving Dinner at a church on a par with attending a church service. The dinner is likely to be much more social than religious in nature, although there is sure to be a blessing and mention of thanks to God, Jesus, etc., and it would be nice for you to attend with your family. Nevertheless, someone calling and demanding that you get fixed up and down there by 5pm is rather stupid--how do they think anyone would react to such a rude demand? That is sowing poison rather than seeds.
 
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That doesn't sound very Christian of you to assume that just because people don't "believe" that they aren't a son/daughter of God. Can they not believe just because they don't attend? Very judgemental if I do say so myself.
 
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