Question of the Day - Saturday, July 12th, 2025

[The Moonshiner]

Are compatibility and mutual respect for each other along with being in love not good reasons to get married?

Well sure because that includes "being in love".
Compatibility and mutual respect without love wouldn't be imo.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

Are compatibility and mutual respect for each other along with being in love not good reasons to get married?

They are good reasons. I was not "in love with" my current DH when we married, but I have certainly grown to love him. We have been happily married now for going on 15 years.

 

[Pampered chicken girl]

Without a doubt, and I personally truly believe that anyone who doesn't believe in it just hasn't experienced it yet. That's just me tho

 

[Pampered chicken girl]

I also believe that love alone shouldn't be all that you get married for. You can love someone who you aren't compatible with and who isn't good for you, but you should get married because of love. Because you are in love with someone who is right for you.

 

[5Australorpasaures]

Let's get pessimistic

 

[NotabitaiI]

Are compatibility and mutual respect for each other along with being in love not good reasons to get married?

No, only love. Don't bother marrying someone (who you love) for good and proper reasons, marry a psychopathic wife beater, love alone is enough

 

[NotabitaiI]

Let's get pessimistic

I strongly like that song

 

[jbj25]

Are compatibility and mutual respect for each other along with being in love not good reasons to get married?

It could be said that if you don't have those couple of things, as well as a few more, than it isn't love, but only infatuation. That is the part you two may not be getting with this love thing.

That doesn't mean that people that are truly in love don't end up growing apart for several different reasons, because it can, and does, happen.

And, so, by saying that, I will also say there is no such thing as love at first sight. Or, at least in the kind of love for people to form a marriage. That would be an attraction, an infatuation, or something along those lines that could very will grow into love. But, very well could not.

The only love at first sight would be with parents and their children. That love at first sight is real, I promise you that. It is similar to the love you could feel for your significate other, but not exactly the same.

Also, love at first sight could be with things. I mean you may love a plant for example upon seeing it, but you don't have to respect it. All it has to do is look pretty or smell good. But, not the same kind of love either.

There are different kinds of love that you will realize once you have experienced them.

Edit to add: When you feel in your heart that you will surely die for this person to protect them, to keep them safe, then you have truly experienced love for a person.

No, only love. Don't bother marrying someone (who you love) for good and proper reasons, marry a psychopathic wife beater, love alone is enough

 

[NotabitaiI]

Edit to add: When you feel in your heart that you will surely die for this person to protect them, to keep them safe, then you have truly experienced love for a person.

You can feel this for someone who is not good for you, that is why I would not marry For Love Alone.
All I am saying is that I would only marry someone if we shared faith, values, and life goals, not just love, but love would of course be necessary. I'm also not saying anyone who married for love is wrong, I'm just saying that's not a choice I would (in my right mind) make.

 

[jbj25]

You can feel this for someone who is not good for you, that is why I would not marry For Love Alone.
All I am saying is that I would only marry someone if we shared faith, values, and life goals, not just love, but love would of course be necessary. I'm also not saying anyone who married for love is wrong, I'm just saying that's not a choice I would (in my right mind) make.

You still don't get it. Without those things it really isn't love. So, if you are in love with them, then, you have those other things. Without them it is not love. Think about it. What is the love you have based on if you don't have those things? It would just be an attraction or infatuation or something along those lines and not love. There is a difference.