I have found everyones comments very thought provoking, and wanted to tahnk Setter4 for his kind and thoughtful replies to the many questions raised.
My mother choose to be cremated 4 years ago, her wish was also that her casket was to be kept closed as she did not wish to be looked upon in death prior to her cremation. I upheld her wishes completely. We also discussed every element of her funeral prior to her death. I decided that I would write her funeral goodbye's to the family as I did not wany anyone else who did not know her commenting on what a wonderful Mother she was. I wrote it for mum from the heart, with individual message to the whole family. The priest who officiated at the funeral thanked me afterwards and said it was a lovely thing to do for a departed loved one. We also choose her music (Glenn Miller - no hymns because she did not want any)
My mother and I decided long ago that we would both be cremated and that as my husband wants to be buried, mum and I will once again be together, I have her ashes still, and when my time comes, we are going to have our ashes buried together on our hill farm in Bala North Wales (a special place to the family) We choose the spot, the family know what spring and summer bulbs we want planting when we are together. But I did plant a special flower bed in my garden at home, which has a plaque dedicated to her and a seat, so that anyone can sit and reflect upon memories.
So although none of us like the thought of dying and leaving behind our families etc, I believe it is best to be prepared for that final earth journey so that your family knows exactly what YOU want, and not want they want for you. So you may not want to do it for yourself, but do it for your family. Even to the point of putting down any special songs you want played.
Hope I haven't sounded to morbid. But for me at least I prefer the cremation, I dislike the thought of being buried as I don't like bugs or the cold.
Thanks for "listening"
My mother choose to be cremated 4 years ago, her wish was also that her casket was to be kept closed as she did not wish to be looked upon in death prior to her cremation. I upheld her wishes completely. We also discussed every element of her funeral prior to her death. I decided that I would write her funeral goodbye's to the family as I did not wany anyone else who did not know her commenting on what a wonderful Mother she was. I wrote it for mum from the heart, with individual message to the whole family. The priest who officiated at the funeral thanked me afterwards and said it was a lovely thing to do for a departed loved one. We also choose her music (Glenn Miller - no hymns because she did not want any)
My mother and I decided long ago that we would both be cremated and that as my husband wants to be buried, mum and I will once again be together, I have her ashes still, and when my time comes, we are going to have our ashes buried together on our hill farm in Bala North Wales (a special place to the family) We choose the spot, the family know what spring and summer bulbs we want planting when we are together. But I did plant a special flower bed in my garden at home, which has a plaque dedicated to her and a seat, so that anyone can sit and reflect upon memories.
So although none of us like the thought of dying and leaving behind our families etc, I believe it is best to be prepared for that final earth journey so that your family knows exactly what YOU want, and not want they want for you. So you may not want to do it for yourself, but do it for your family. Even to the point of putting down any special songs you want played.
Hope I haven't sounded to morbid. But for me at least I prefer the cremation, I dislike the thought of being buried as I don't like bugs or the cold.
Thanks for "listening"