Amen! We had custody of two of our grandkids. Jamie we had off and on since he was two, and then full custody starting at 11. His sister, Little Diane, was 6 when we took the kids. They had different dads. Our daughter loves her kids, but has suffered most of her life with Borderline Personality Disorder, a nasty condition I wouldn't wish on anyone! Anyway, I remember saying more than once, "I hope we're doing the right thing - we won't know for years if we did!" Didn't take that long. Jamie followed in his grampa's footsteps and became a nuclear reactor operator on a submarine. He married his lovely wife Rachel. They have two little ones, our great grandkids Landyn Kenneth (named after Grampa), and Madelyn Grace (named after my beloved grandmother). Little Diane just got married in September back in South Dakota, where she's from and where she went back to live with her dad when she was 10. She had her grampa walk her down the aisle along with her dad. She said, "Dad gave me life, but Grampa gave me hope AND a life." Little Diane and her husband will be flying out this weekend. She comes "home" every year, and she does call this old place "home", as does her brother! So yep, it might not seem like it at the time, but what we do to repair those fragile lives matters very much later on!