Rant!!!! Another Mother Yelling And Dissing My Kid!!!!

[herefordlovinglady]

Girl you did what needed to be done. The lady needed to know how she was treating your DD was wrong. If you would of waited for another time to confront her the impact would of not been registered. I feel strongly that when something happens it needs to be dealt with immediately.

I am proud of my mom for the times she stood up for me in public.

No apologizing from you, now from her, she needs to make a few phone calls.

 

[sonew123]

Let me clarify something-yes there was arguing but I never at one point Screamed and yelled-my voice was loud but no one has ever heard me scream and yell but my DH! Not even my children-it was quiet in the hallway and when we started to speak a nomral conversation would have been loud. We did move to the doors as I was leaving-I did apologize at first saying "I'm sorry you thought my DD was rude and so forth but you have the wrong child" that is when the real drama began-she refused to listen-yes I approached her but she was ready for it because she stood right there at the doors staring at me ..waiting..was it right? Nope wasn't right but Ill be danged if I will ever walk away after an adult accuses and belittles my child for something they didnt do-walking away was NOT an option and I will never teach my child to walk away from a situation that was completely not her fault-they would view her as meak-wimpy and just a doormat for bullies- walking away from other people issues yes-get away and dont get involved-I agree, but NEVER in this situtation-would I allow it to come to blows?? Never ...I wanted to but I am a bigger person than that so before it did come to that I did walk away. I will not apologize at this point as I have learned all sides of the fences on this issue-maybe she is a good mom-a church going mom-whatever you want to call it-but I am too. I did not show my DD bad things-I dont give a rats butt what people think of me -Im too old for that to matter at this point in my life. I have a name in my community too-I am loving -very generous when I can help anyone who needs it-kind-I would give the shirt off my back-yes even to the very woman who nastily bullied my DD-if she needed it. I dont lose my temper-in fact I am very much the mediator with many people to diffuse fights if need be to make certain both sides see what the other was thinking. I showed my DD to stick up for her rights-if she is in the right-if she had done what that lady said she had done I would have dragged her butt in that school and made her apologize-as well as rounding up the other friends that helped annoy this lady. You are entitled to your opinion-I agree-I just dont agree on walking away and letting her get away with doing what she did to my child-nope aint gunna happen!

 

[welsummerchicks]

So what is 'loud' to you is 'screaming' to someone else. To me, it's beside the point.

It doesn't change my beliefs any - I still feel that there is no good in trying to talk to someone or explain something when they are mad. I was in crisis intervention for a long time, that's one of our rules. There is no good in trying to reason with someone when they are mad. I still believe the best course is to take your kid and walk away. Don't engage. At all. Just leave. She's at the door? There's another door. Or nod and just walk through.

I also still feel - this bb is biased, as are all bb's, when someone comes in and says 'kids these days are so rude' everyone will rally around that, too - parents will say, 'yes, i train my kids right, though most others don't' and childless people will say, 'things just aren't the same as when i was young'. It all depends on who's telling the story.

My friend's father handled it differently, the father was someone who loved to shock people and had a very, very dry sense of humor. When someone yelled at their kid in a theatre for being noisy, her father said, 'I'm SO grateful you told me, I must not be beating her enough, I'll beat her more'.

 

[australorpchick]

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You have already stated your opinion and by continuing with your posts, you are trying to get others to agree with you. I feel it safe to say, the vast majority of us do not agree with you and nothing you say will change that.

 

[Cetawin]

You showed restraint compared to what she would have gotten from me. Ever see a busy body think she is it woan with an alto sax sticking out of a body orifice? Well you most likely would have.

 

[Camelot Farms]

If we dont have our children's backs then who will?

You did the right thing Nat!

 

[michelle1017]

Natalie--There will always be rude people in the world. The sad part is, they probably don't realize it. I feel it is our duty to point it out to them and let them know about it. Especially when it comes to our children! I don't know about you, but I have tried to teach my children to stand up for what is right, not let some self righteous woman cut them down when they have done nothing wrong. What kind of parent would you be if you would have just looked at your daughter and shrugged?

Walking away from this situation would have given the evil one satisfaction of knowing she bullied a young girl and would have left your daughter in tears the whole evening. That wouldn't be fair, would it?

I will step down now.

I would hate to be the one to get this thread shut down.

 

[welsummerchicks]

I am not trying to get anyone to agree. I am answering what people are saying about what I believe. There is absolutely no point in trying to change anyone's mind here, it ain't a gonna happen.

 

[australorpchick]

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PM is a handy-dandy concept that would work perfectly then. Let's try not to get Natalie's post shut down.

 

[Wifezilla]

Never back down to a bully. Ever. It just makes them stronger.

I got suspended from school twice in grade school for standing up to bullies beating on other kids. I thumped em good

When my mom got called in I explained what happened and the principal thought I was confessing my crime. "See? She even admits it!" he said.

My mom said why should she not admit it, she did the right thing. While the school suspended me, mom took me out for lunch for being so brave.

The bully never got punished but did cut back on his activities.

Anyway, appeasement doesn't work and makes the problem worse. You done good mom.