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[hooksetz]

Cut all ties, she'll find some one else to bug when you're gone, but cut ALL ties now. You'll be glad you did.

 

[cwc362]

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Ditto-- You can't save the world!! Especially somebody who doesn't want to be saved. If you hang on and keep up with her , you will just be feeding her dysfunction. You will help her more by not trying to help her. But writing a letter to her parents would probably be a good idea. There are really smart people on here. I'm sure some of them could help you word it.

Good Luck!!

Wayne
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Tennessee

 

[Jena]

Momma_Cluck has said it all,

just walk away, have no contact with her.

Don't try to explain anything, she refuses to understand or listen.

The probem is hers. Not yours.

Walk away and cut her out of your life, believe me, if you don't feel good walking then run.....

I am one of the mugs who gave in to these kinds of behaviour because I didn't have the self confidence to hurt anyone else. It ruins your life.

RUN.

I am being really serious, I am now 55 and have serious issues trusting now. I also look back and wonder about all of the good things I could have been doing while I was supporting problem people.

Lift your head, look life in the eye and find people worthy of your trust and effort.

 

[Indiana hens]

Let me think? Enabler + stalker = 5 1/2 yrs in prison for murder / or!!!!! If you care about yourself get away from her and quit talking to her no exceptions!!!!! More than likely she will change her mind about suicide; then she will just be very mad at you!

Bad that someone would commit suicide; even worse when they take someone with them! Those stories that make the news did not start in the news! They started similar to your story!!!!!!!!

 

[mmtillman]

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I agree with your post here....this is not only an unhealthy relationship for anyone to be in , but, it will only deteriorate further.
I speak from first hand experience as my own parents had this type of sick relationship and that is not fair to your family or future kids to even consider involving yourself with her. Tell someone and get out while you can .

 

[Chickerdoodle13]

Threatening suicide to keep another person in a relationship is a form of sexual harassment/abuse. You can get the police involved and fill out a statement. I betcha that will get her to stop.

Even though she is threatening herself, it is still a threat focused at you. She needs help and its not necessarily your job to get it for her. Contact the authorities, fill out a report, and they will in turn speak to her parents if she is under the age of 18. Hopefully a talking to by the police will open their eyes!

 

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

I wouldnt even use the words "I care about you but"
That is just going to give her something to HANG ON TO."
"but you said you CARED about me!"

Leave her alone. No contact. Nothing. No letters. NOTHING!

Change your numbers if you have to. And call the police if she makes another threat of suicide. They will take her into protective custody and then her parents will have to deal with her issues.

 

[dave_Cash69]

its hard but sometimes i guess you just gotta let go.
BUT im off to school now, thank god i dont go to the same school as she does, but anyways I think we're practicing for ACT's, so adios!

 

[EweSheep]

Stay focus on your ACTs, you will need it! College is hard these days but you will succeed!