Reporting belligerent members

[Nifty-Chicken]

It's a really interesting discussion... and a tricky one!

We (moderators) are always trying to balance telling:

• POSTERS: "Be more patient, kind, understanding, and helpful in your messages!"

• READERS: "Be more patient, thick-skinned, and less-reactive!"

We want our members to not feel like we're clamping-down on their ability to share their thoughts and perspectives... even if done in a way that some might interpret as "rude" or "mean".

... but we also want to foster / encourage an environment where peeps feel relatively comfortable.

Also, there might be a member that's having a bad-day and their tone is a bit prickly... but there might be a member that's "always rude/condescending". What do we do in these situations?

In some cases we might not take immediate action, but the reports help us keep an eye on peeps to see if it's a "one-off" or recurring issue.

Super tricky!

FORTUNATLEY, we have the best moderators in the world, so please report stuff that you feel is problematic. They will review, discuss (and sometimes debate) and then take action if/where needed.

 

[thecatumbrella]

It's a really interesting discussion... and a tricky one!

We (moderators) are always trying to balance telling:

• POSTERS: "Be more patient, kind, understanding, and helpful in your messages!"

• READERS: "Be more patient, thick-skinned, and less-reactive!"

We want our members to not feel like we're clamping-down on their ability to share their thoughts and perspectives... even if done in a way that some might interpret as "rude" or "mean".

... but we also want to foster / encourage an environment where peeps feel relatively comfortable.

Also, there might be a member that's having a bad-day and their tone is a bit prickly... but there might be a member that's "always rude/condescending". What do we do in these situations?

In some cases we might not take immediate action, but the reports help us keep an eye on peeps to see if it's a "one-off" or recurring issue.

Super tricky!

FORTUNATLEY, we have the best moderators in the world, so please report stuff that you feel is problematic. They will review, discuss (and sometimes debate) and then take action if/where needed.

I appreciate the extra clarification! I was in the camp that they might be having a bad day, so I didn't bother to report. I'll be more mindful of the mods having a heads up next time.

 

[BigBlueHen53]

I appreciate the extra clarification! I was in the camp that they might be having a bad day, so I didn't bother to report. I'll be more mindful of the mods having a heads up next time.

Cat, if ever I seem to be "having a bad day," by all means please poke me in a pm and say something like, "hey, did you mean to come across the way you did in that post? Seemed a little harsh" or alert me in some way, wouldja? Sometimes i intend to be funny and maybe I'm a lttle insensitive. If I need to I'll apologize and delete a post! Never want to hurt feelings! Thanks!

 

[thecatumbrella]

Cat, if ever I seem to be "having a bad day," by all means please poke me in a pm and say something like, "hey, did you mean to come across the way you did in that post? Seemed a little harsh" or alert me in some way, wouldja? Sometimes i intend to be funny and maybe I'm a lttle insensitive. If I need to I'll apologize and delete a post! Never want to hurt feelings! Thanks!

Will do, Blue. And honestly, same for me! I know we both like to laugh and joke, but I get that humor is different for every person. The last thing I ever want to do is upset anyone. I've absolutely had moments on the site when I've needed to tell myself, "Stop talking, April!"