Rude Behavior, I'm Perplexed

[Laurajean]

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No, LauraJean, you just try to steal peoples husbands at karoake night!!<teehee>

Rammy

Rammy, I know, I know. I really need to stop doing that. It's very rude of me.

 

[PineappleMama]

I donno, depends entirely on the husband... you might be doing a great kindness... to the wife.

My kiddos tend to do that "face" and then say a sorry when I catch them pulling a rude... don't have to ID the rude, just say rude much and they know what they did... so I guess there's hope they'll enter the world with at least SOME of it sticking.

 

[wildeflowers]

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I agree. I am in constant pain from bilateral hip displaysia. Does that give me the right to be a you know what to everyone I see? Heck no. I think that we are all in control of our actions. Sometimes, yes, it is harder for us to say please and thank you, maybe because we are having a very bad day, but we are still capable. Under normal circumstances, there really is no reason to be rude. (By normal I mean not being in a situation where seconds count or someone could die type situation) I live out in the country, where we have alot of old timer farmers, and we also have alot of newer generations. I'm right in the middle. Most of the time, the only folks that will wave to you out here, that don't know you, are the farmers. I can always count on them waving back. Do I wave to everyone I pass, the ones I do know, yes. The one's I don't know, sometimes. Just depends on where I am at, or if they, or I'm, even paying attention. However, I don't think I've ever waved to a farmer on a tractor that hasn't waved back. And you know those guys are probably sore, tired or grumpy from working hard.

ITA, as well. So what if someone is having a bad day? Does that give you a license to be a jerk? No, it does not. We are having a tough time right now, and I am not taking it out on anyone. In fact, I am hoping to be nicer, although I am in a bit of a fog a lot of the time. In my example of the kid who let the door slam in my son's face, if a heavy door like that had hit my son in the head and it was close to doing so, he could have hemorrhaged from it. So I am just saying that we need to think about our actions. You may be having a bad day, but when you let that door slam in someone's face or say something mean or cut them off, they could be having the worst day of their life, too. Your bad day is not more important than everyone and everything else.

 

[quercus21]

I myself was brought up with manners and so were the rats(kids). I'll stop for people with car problems, hold doors, "ladies" first etc, share the sidewalk or trails etc. I also draw a line with rudeness, after a certain point I don't accept it. My better half is a little women compared to me. She says (sorry dear) she's 5'1" and maybe 115lbs (fully clothed, soaking wet). She's always getting pushed to the side, either on the sidewalk, bike or hiking trails. It has gotten to the point, that I have to like clear away by going first or if she is in the lead, banging into alot of people. I won't move off the trail or sidewalk. The last time this happened we were out hiking, 2 couples thought they owned the trail, the better half was leading, they came down the trail 2 abreast and didn't form a single line, the better half stumbled off the trail, one guy bounced of of me, and just about took out the couple behind him. Looks were exchanged and we continued on our way.

 

[Orchid]

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Reminds me of my best friend. She is tiny compared to me, about 5'2" and 120 pounds, and I have honestly had to protect her from being practically run over at concerts and other crowded events. She's small, not invisible, for cripes sake! I don't have that problem.

 

[ChickyChickyBaby]

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My DD is 21 years old, 4'10" and maybe 100 pounds. Her best friend is at least 5'6" I think. All through their high school years, it was common for me to say "Keep an eye on the little person" when they went to concerts. She rarely had any problems, but that could be mostly because she is extremely loud

 

[HLAC]

My mom is from Japan and while she is very Americanized there are a few things that I grew up with that are more culturally Japanese than American. Such as not making any prolonged eye contact, saying thank you for everything, being polite and giving gifts. Japanese people practically have gift wars.

Growing up in Chicagoland, I have quirks from there too. I walk through crowds like it's a race. I drive fast and at a stop sign - if you even slightly hesitate... I'm going.

I wave (or nod) at other drivers when I'm in the really rural areas. You can't blame city folks not having the habit of waving at others tho'. You're surrounded by tens of thousands of other drivers during your commute.

I strongly believe that there is never a good reason to be rude to others. Not that I've never been rude.. but I try really, really hard not to be. Even when the phone company was jacking me around with a two thousand dollar bill that was not mine (someone tapped into my line.. the joys of city-living) I snapped at the customer service person, but apologized profusely because I know they just worked there.

I hold doors for others and say thank you to those who hold them for me. (however, I make only the briefest eye contact)

Oh, and in Japan, if you're at a restaurant, the host/hostess will not come to your table to unless you call to them. They consider it rude to interrupt your meal by asking if you want more drinks or whatever.

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

I was nice...then I was rude today.

I held the door open for a girl (being female myself) who didn't even say "Thank you" to me. Another girl was coming up so I decided to go ahead and hold the door for her too. She stopped IN THE DOORWAY to talk on her cell phone and sat there staring at me.

I let the door slam on her face.

I felt much better.

 

[sgtmom52]

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I know all about those gift wars! Anytime anyone goes away if even for a weekend they bring gifts back for all of their coworkers and friends. Usually it is something small like candy or some other token gift. My daughter said that when her friends go for a longer vacation they take an extra "empty" suitcase just so they have plenty of room to bring home gifts.

When my daughter came home for a visit in Sept. she brought small gifts for us from several of her coworkers whom we have never met! When she returned she took a lot of American Chocolate back for them!

 

[ChickensAreSweet]

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I have a Jeep, and for those of you who have Jeeps, you know there is a "Jeep Wave". Anytime a Jeep passes another Jeep, we wave to each other, or sometimes people will do a peace sign. It always makes me wonder why that's just a Jeep thing (I know a lot of bikers do it too), but why not everyone? Sometimes I try randomly waving at people but they just look confused and keep going. The only other exception is on my road, because it's a narrow dirt road and if you happen to have two cars passing, one has to pull off to the side. So then the other person waves thank you, but that's about it.

I have a Miata and we do this too!

They actually did a report on the demise of manners on Good Morning America this past week.
So this thread has put this little scenario in my head: I'd like to have a t'shirt made with big block letters that says, "Manner Police". I'd have a police light and siren strapped to my head and a ticket book. Walking through Walmart, I'd "pull over" any offenders that I'd witnessed and write them a ticket for rudeness, thereby publically embarrassing the crap out of them.

You think that'd hit the news? Then we can put them all in manner rehab.

I was pretty traumatized one day when I was in Walmart with my two children, in the camping section. The store wasn't crowded, and I wasn't thinking.

I unthinkingly parked my cart on one side of the isle and reached for a rain poncho on a hook up high on the other side of the isle. I was then blocking the whole aisle.

Then I saw another brand of rain poncho, and paused.

I about jumped out of my skin when a woman with her husband YELLED at me (bellowed would be another word to describe it), "You're blocking the whole aisle!"

I about cried. When I turned to look at her, she had such an expression of hatred and meanness toward me, that I couldn't understand.