Sad Story- Girl Commits Suicide because of bullying

[Ferrret]

I do have a serious issue with charging boys with rape charges... IMHO, it's not rape if they're both willing. They're stuck on the rape list for the rest of their lives and I think thats wrong. Especially when girls lie about their age etc.... Charge them with something akin to rape if you want, make up something new, but that is NOT rape IMO.

There is a saddening number of rape cases that go unreported and that are not taken seriously because of the "they were willing" mindset. Using words and actions to constantly pressure someone into having sex is up for debate as to whether it constitutes rape or not.
If someone, like a teenager, is constantly under pressure from the person who wants to have sex with them, and under pressure from their peers, they are likely to give in to having sex, regardless of if they want it. You throw their ages into the mix and you suddenly have one or two people who are, by law, unable to make sexual decisions for themselves and then most will agree that rape has occurred.

A lot of teens who are raped don't bother to report it because that will cause their peers to shun them and bully them. The very same reasons apply to why a lot of teens regrettably have sex at such an early age. Yes, there are teens and adults who will call rape when they are upset, but the actual numbers of that are small. A lot of rapists get away with the crime because the legal system goes around the rules and makes the victim look like a harlot.

These boys will have the rape charge follow them regardless of if they are convicted. Girls who are raped are followed all their lives by the damage that comes with rape.
This girl's family will have to live knowing their daughter commit suicide because these bullies tormented her, and now new bullies are tormenting them in their mourning.
Rape has a much bigger impact then a sexual action. I don't really want to get into it here, but the consequences for rape are very uneven for the victims and those accused of rape.​

 

[rebelcowboysnb]

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I dont think teaching kids to run an tell on every little this would be good for them an it would be just as bad to teach them to never tell.

The way I was raised is if someone is doing something wrong but it is not hurting anyone or maybe just hurting the person doing it then to just stay out of it. But when they start doing things that affect other people its time to pipe up.

Little brother is grounded but playing video games under the bed... That is hurting no one. Running to tell is not a good thing an a very dangers habit to get in. Dont think many people call keeping your mouth shut a lie.

Little brother is strapping C4 to the walls in the basement.... Ya need to say something to someone.

Yes its a double standard an I know the choice is never this simple. Its A morel decision an kids have to decide where they draw that line on there on. Most parents I know just try to point out the right choice on the extreme ends an let kids find there own middle ground.


As adults we all draw that line at different places. Its a big part of who we are.

 

[Mattemma]

Such a sad story, as are all bully related deaths. I pray my kids let me know when people are bothering them,so I can remove them from the situation.

I know there are anti-bully laws in place,but they are-IMO- a joke.

I had to deal with my youngest being bullied.It went on for 4 months-hitting,kicking,spitting,ice thrown at his head. I did meetings and letters and all that with teachers,principal,couselors.I finally gave up and pulled my child out of the school when the school just let it go on and threatened truancy. Bully laws do not protect.And the school....at first they tried somewhat to work with me,but in the end denied bullying and/or said my child was also *no angel*. The principal even told me one time," You are the ONLY parent to complain of bullying,and we have over 300 students." As if that somehow made the bullying invalid.

I get sad just thinking about it,but more so for families where the end result is suicide.Prayers and hugs for families going through this issue.

 

[Mattemma]

Have the news on and just saw the story of the 13yo boy who hung himself over the weekend,and bullying is suspected.Sad so sad.

 

[QuinnP]

because I have cerebral palsy & walk funny, from 6th grade til 11th grade, I was followed, spat on, called names, had to eat my lunch in the girls bathroom to avoid the taunting. The only reason I didn't drop out of school was because I didn't want to disappoint my Dad. He's a lawyer. I wanted him to file a restraining order against the bullies, I was in the office every week begging that wrinkly oul turd (the principal) to do something, anything, give me a little peace. My pain turned inward, the person I was then is dead. The only thing that made a difference was one day I started screaming in class LEAVE ME ALONE & carried a knife & a chain every day for the world to see. But my pain is still there, some hurts go much too deep. The only thin that could make it better would be death. (No, I am not suicidal but that is the truth.) I told my folks that I did not blame Eric Harris or Dylan Klebold, & they were horrified. Relentless, constant pain will push a person over the edge.

 

[RAWR]

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omg...thats horrible

 

[ntiveheart]

what i'd like to know is.....why isn't the school administration being held, at least in part, respnsible for this? they knew and swept it under the rug. no one did anything to help this poor child. NO ONE.

did you know that suicide is the 14th leading cause of death in children between the ages of 12 and 17? do you know that suicide due to bullying is so prevalent that it actually has a name? it's called BULLYCIDE.

children and their parents are told that a child being bullied must learn to "find their voice" and develop the "life skills" necessary to deal with it alone. WHAT?????

someone in my family is dealing with this right how. their 11 year old son says he feels "dead inside" when the other child bullies him. the school has been made aware. the administration didn't even see fit to advise the child's teachers about the problem. that was left to the child's mom. the bully is in 5th grade and has targeted other children, that we know of, since 2nd grade and NOTHING has been done. we're told that the bully has "issues". well of course he does. why has there been no intervention?

elementary school bullies turn into middle school bullies and middle school bullies turn into high school bullies. after that, my guess is that they turn into prison bullies. and yes, i know that is a sweeping generalization but it's also reality.

how many more phoebe's have to make the national news for us to sit up and take notice? 10? 1000? i'm here to say that even one is too many!

sorry for the rant, but as a mother who has lost a child to suicide, this hits very very close to home for me.

 

[MaggieRae]

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I lost a friend who shared a name and a birthday with me when she hung herself because of bullies and depression. She was only 16.

 

[RAWR]

i hate the way schools are anymore
i've lost friend after friend after friend becuase of bullys.
i almost lost another

 

[ntiveheart]

is your child being bullied? do you even suspect it? you MUST be an advocate for your child because the schools will simply not do it. they will throw phrase at you like, "well junior simply has to find his voice and the bully will stop" or " jill has to build life skills that will enable her to cope better"

may i just say that this is CODSWALLOP?

talk to the administrators, talk to all the teachers and if you don't get results/help IMMEDIATELY or to your satisfaction, go directly to the school board offices. depending on your circumstances, talk to your local action reporter, but don't let them just sweep it under the rug or tell you that its really not as serious and your child is making it seem!