I had planned on including Santa in the Christmas celebrations with my children but doing it in a very tongue-in-cheek kind of way. I couldn't intentionally lie to my child and try to get him to believe all the fly-around-the-world dropping-into-every-chimney stories. It seems you have to continue to tell more lies and do more sneaking around to keep up the pretense, and then eventually they learn the truth anyway. And that *can* lead to hurt feelings & mistrust about other things you've said. But I was going to teach him about the real St Nicholas, and about being generous, compassionate, and considerate especially at Christmas-time. I planned on including a gift for him "from Santa" the same way I prepared little gifts that were supposed to be "from the dogs". All in fun, wink-wink, everyone knows the truth but enjoys pretending anyway.
I have no problems with other folks doing Santa however they wish with their children and I've instructed my boys to never ever tell their little friends Santa isn't real. I think it can bring a lot of joy & wonderful childhood memories. Who knows, perhaps my boys were secretly disappointed in not having Santa to believe in, although they say they don't miss it. Maybe I'll learn how they really feel the day they drop me off in front of some grim nursing home and drive away shouting "Ho ho ho!"
What I wonder (and this was one of the reasons I didn't do Santa) is what do when your child's friends tell him that Santa brought them some expensive hard-to-find toys that your child also wanted, maybe even told Santa about it, but didn't receive? Is this what fuels the shopping frenzy in the toy depts? How can you explain the discrepency? Children are told to write to Santa, to see him in the store and tell him what they want, and then they see other children getting the very things they wanted most but didn't receive. I did not think I could keep up with the reputation Santa is supposed to have.
Merry Christmas, whatever & however you believe!