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[pdsavage]

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you can teach and old dog new tricks....
walk with your head held high and never never let him make you feel lower than dirt....
i use to allways say sorry and stay silent while he made me feel lower than dog doo...but not no more...
If he is nice to strangers/acuantince then by gosh i deserve even better than a stranger since this man says he loves me....
edit to say:and if he wants to let off steam he should take up jogging or some kinda sport...

 

[shawnkfl]

just let him know, that verbal abuse, is in fact, abuse.

 

[chickenzoo]

I dealt with a lot of verbal stuff from my hubby when the military hospital had him dosed up on predisone for his lungs for many years. It was a catch 22, he needed the meds to help him breath but it turned him into a monster. One day I just got fed up, I asked him why he was so intent on hurting me. I was the only one who stood bye him through all this and he was destroying our relationship one word at a time and I did not deserve it. It woke him up.
I pray your hubby wakes up too. No matter how good they are, mean words put scares on your heart that are very hard to heal.

 

[HobokenChickenEmergency]

I see here verbal abuse, but I also see a man who "wants you to himself". That's also a bad sign, hun.

I've been there myself. See if you can't get talk him into counseling. He may be a great dad, but he's not setting a good example for his kids. Would he like it if some future son-in-law talked to his daughter that way? Because, I guarantee, that's what will happen. Girls marry men that resemble their fathers.

I don't want to scare you, but as one of 4 messed up daughters, I know how this story ends.

 

[babylady4]

Stop making excuses for the man! He is an adult and you are his wife; he needs to treat you with the same respect he demands or it is hit the road buster! What kind of example is this for your girls? Do you want THEM to be treated this way by their spouses? They are learning from the example that you and he present every day, that this is how a relationship should be. YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!!!

BTW, you should NEVER have to make 'deals' or 'bargains' with your spouse in order to get something done. If you need help they should assist, and if they ask you for help the same applies. Next time he asks for something (like laundry or cooking or whatever)make a 'bargain' with him and see how he likes it! Sixty-two and acting like he is 4? Shame on him!


Marriage: Always a partership, never a dictatorship.