Must be a pretty rough time, life sometimes seems to pull all it's bad tricks in a row.
@no fly zone hope you're keeping head above (urban) water and give us some news when you feel like it.
We haven't managed to keep my smaller chickens and chicks out of the garden. While they do some good clearing bugs and some of the weeds, they mostly do bad at this time of year. Just yesterday I found out they had eaten all the kale leaves (I was taking a risk leaving them unprotected). I gave up my strawberry patch : it needs weeding everyday and we didn't find a way to keep the chickens out without making it uncomfortable for us to be in. I protected the chards and beets otherwise they would be none left. The other stuff, beans, squashes, zucchinis, tomatoes, corn...seem to be untouched. They haven't understood yet that tomatoes are good to eat and I never give them as treats anymore. All my tomatoes and beans are safely tied to poles so they couldn't trample them if they tried. But I guess next year we'll electrify the netting to keep them out.
In many ways children, even older, and young teens, will naturally act in ways that frighten most animals : make noise, run around, be unpredictable, try to touch and pet them. It takes a real education for most of them to act otherwise.
We have a couple of friends from the city who come regularly to see us with their now seven year old kid. He's always been quiet, shy, and the think before acting type. Before we had the roos, he used to hang out a lot with the hens and he loves them. I trust the kid completely, but we still don't let him go in the chicken yard now without an adult with him. One reason is that he is partly deaf, and probably because of this, he tends to speak very loudly. But, I also don't trust my smaller rooster completely with any strangers, and while he is too small to hurt anyone I think he could scare a kid. Even one that tries to have a correct behaviour.