Should parents need licences to be parents?

[Camelot Farms]

Nicely said Boyd!

 

[joe_p]

no

 

[Rusty Hills Farm]

Rusty - I do have a set of parenting standards I have to follow when I accepted my license from the state of Michigan. There are ways to make the kids respectable and polite no matter how hard a life they lead smile Many of ours come from inner cities where the social standards are very low IMHO.

As well you should. You are, after all, dealing with children who have been damaged and are in need of help. However, I submit that your biological children should be raised to YOUR standards, not some preset mandates given to you by the state. You are a fairly conservative adult (or so it appears from the posts I've read) and the way you raise your own will reflect that. I tend to be very liberal and my approach reflected that. My 2 have turned out great and I bet yours are too, because we are involved and connected with them. I think THAT is the real factor in raising good kids-- hands-on involvement and emotional investment. And I do not think there is any way a state can mandate that commitment from people. That is what I was trying to say in my initial post. That the country NEEDS both your approach and my approach (ie conservative and liberal) but what it needs most is the commitment and involvement of parents in their children's lives. I just didn't say it very well.

Rusty​

 

[sunshineinsc]

well said Boyd!

I do think some people should take parenting classes. Maybe offer it in high school. Just basic things like good nutrition, hygene, how to take care of a baby, the importance of a good education, common sense type of things ect. Help those that were raised in a bad situation see that there are other ways to raise a child.

 

[TennesseeTruly]

Let me say that this is NOT a good day for me to answer this question so please bear with me.

A little history....I've had custody of my almost 9 year old grandson since he was 2. His mother neglected him horribly and sexually abused him. His father, my son, unfortunately wants nothing to do with this sweet child because he feels he's "damaged goods".

Now that being said, these two worthless pieces of garbage not only should have had a license but an intelligence test before they even decided to date.

I just got back from an appointment with my grandson's counselor, where they want to put him in a hospital because at 8 years old, he is talking about hurting himself because his "mommy and daddy doesn't love me or care about me". This child has a ton of psychiatric issues and has Aspergers syndrome to boot. He's been on psych meds since he was 3.

We have recently taken all contact away from his mother per her psychiatrist....so what does she do???? She sends him a card in the mail...which sends him over the deep end. (Dillon got the mail that day, he rarely ever gets it and it just happened to be that day the card came) She makes promises over and over again that she would send his Christmas presents. He would come home from school every day to see if they came, they never did. When the card came in the mail on Monday, he said, "how come mommy doesn't have to follow the rules but I do?" Wisdom from a child.....

I could go on and on but I won't. If I could get my hands on the two of them right this minute, I would strangle them both. What they've done to this child is criminal. They're both lucky they live 866 miles away from us right now.

Thanks for listening to me vent. So yes, maybe some kind of test or licensing should be done, especially after what I've seen with these two blockheads...and I'm being kind!

Laurie

 

[Nupine]

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All I can say is wow.....and kudos to you.

 

[Camelot Farms]

Love ya Laurie!!

 

[Jess N Jeff]

Let me start off by saying I am the product of a woman that should have NEVER been allowed to have children. She actually had 3. My sister, brother and I are very close, but we all have tramatic memories of our childhood.

I realisticly know that you will never be able to "license" people to have children, but I do believe that mothers and fathers should be made to go through parenting classes when they find out they are pregnant. Just the understanding of how a childs mind develops and the reasons for why they do what they do could have been valuble information for someone like my mom...maybe.

My sister does foster care(1 child) and has 2 beautiful children of her own. She did such an amazing job of preparing herself for motherhood. Took every class and read every book because she was deathly afraid of repeating our mothers horrible choices/mistakes. Her kids benefit greatly from her gained knowledge. I suggest parenting classes should be mandatory.

 

[Jess N Jeff]

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Sorry! I know how much things like this can hurt.

 

[Break an Egg]

There are some people that should be sterilized, my husband's ex has 6 kids, 4 with me that she has no contact with ( and I like it that way) mainly because she is a danger to the kids and she would probably kidnap them if she could.

The other 2 are not my husband's and they are in foster care, custody was taken away from her which is what is best for them.

6 kids in all that she doesn't/cannot take care of. She just needs her tubes tied.