Should parents need licences to be parents?

[MagsC]

Yeah, I was going to say, I never think a child is a mistake. JMO

 

[Boyd]

Hen_House_Rocks! :

YES!

I see too many verbally and physically abusive parents out in public. It makes me feel awful to hear parents using the "f" word at their kids, beating them in public, and being just plain neglectful. (A three year old should not be allowed to roam the streets by themselves.)

I know I'm not a perfect parent, but I think something needs to be done to discourage so many parents from having kids that they can't afford to raise or don't want- would help.

if you go back to my origional post on here I sorta answered the problem you are talking about.

If they are roaming the streets by themselves, or they are having kids and can't afford to take care of them, it is abuse and neglect. Report it or be a part of the problem.​

 

[farmerlor]

We were foster parents for a lot of years, had to quit because we adopted so many of our special needs babies that we are now too broke to foster kids anymore. The things I've seen, the bio parents I've spoken to.....I could tell you stories that would keep you awake for days but I still don't believe in sterilization or licensing. I DO think that children should learn and I mean start learning while they are young what the dynamics of a family should look like. They should know that the people they live with regardless of how they are related should be supportive, nurturing and interested in their lives. They should know that meals are not supposed to be cereal and sour milk every night. Kids should know that hitting and yelling are not the best way to solve a problem.
And no, I never figured out how to raise my bio kids differently from the foster kids and my bio kids are so much the better for it.

 

[Julie08]

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I'm going to wait to respond, but if you could elaborate on your answer a bit I guess I could go either way...... How are kids mistakes?

I certainly wasn't expecting to have my wife expecting with my youngest biological at 9. We took a rather exhaustive approach to not having kids. She is pregnant anyways. Now for the kid to truly be a mistake, both parents need to practice abstinence, and the woman needs to become pregnant by immaculate conception.... but wait, that happened a couple thousand years ago already... and that wasn't quite a mistake

so even 8 year old kids know if you have sex, you can have babies... so the only mistake I see here is the one made by parents. Children are inherently good.

Not all kids not most kids probably hardly any are but a very small percentage are mistakes.

 

[bishopschickens]

No

 

[NoelTate]

I have said many times that we should require a license for someone to have a child. Unfortunately, a license to reproduce would not guarantee good parenting anymore than a license to own a pet guarantees the pet will be well cared for. As a teacher, I see kids all the time who have no one at home to care for them. I have had students who called me dad because they did not have a dad at home or did not feel they had a relationship with their dad. I have seen students who were abused or molested or neglected. We all know people who were ruined by being reared by someone who never should have had children. Those are all very sad situations, but a license would not remedy them. There are people who have children knowing they cannot afford them,s o they children are neglected or are supported by someone else. It is not fair that I do not have children because I do not believe I can financially give them what they deserve, yet my tax dollars pay for other people to have children they cannot afford. People SHOULD have to prove they can afford to support a child independently without government aid before they can reproduce.
What we need is for society to be more responsible. Yes, some people deserve to be sterilized. There was a time when those with mental disabilities were sterilized. As sad as that might sound, it is much sadder to see them come to a parent meeting for their own challenged offspring. Some people need intervention to help them make good, sound decisions. Others are capable of working and making responsible choices, yet they choose to do the opposite. There should be agencies who can step in and help when those situations arise. Those on welfare should be encouraged not to reproduce by requiring they be sterilized or on birth control. Those metally incapable of making a responsible choice about having children should be prevented from having them. Those who mistreat children should have theirs taken away and be sterilized so they cannot have more.
I guess those views make me sound very socialist or very mean, but I just know how sad that some of the situations I have seen children in are. No one should have to be born into the situations a lot of kids are born into, and if we can prevent that, we should.

 

[Julie08]

Boyd, I hope you didnt intentionally leave out the word "some" when you quoted my post.

 

[Nupine]

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I'm going to wait to respond, but if you could elaborate on your answer a bit I guess I could go either way...... How are kids mistakes?

I certainly wasn't expecting to have my wife expecting with my youngest biological at 9. We took a rather exhaustive approach to not having kids. She is pregnant anyways. Now for the kid to truly be a mistake, both parents need to practice abstinence, and the woman needs to become pregnant by immaculate conception.... but wait, that happened a couple thousand years ago already... and that wasn't quite a mistake

so even 8 year old kids know if you have sex, you can have babies... so the only mistake I see here is the one made by parents. Children are inherently good.

Boyd...Everything you just said is SOOOO true.

 

[Boyd]

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not on purpose

Thanks for the correction. Some people shouldn't have children

that I agree with

 

[Break an Egg]

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I completely agree with this post.