Should parents need licences to be parents?

[cluckcluck42]

I have no idea what the answer is but something needs to be done to make sure parents are capable of having kids. What is the answer, who knows. Not licensing, I dont want the government involved anymore than they already are. And child services has made some big mistakes that I have seen and heard of, so I dont even know if THAT is the answer either. I think the unfortunate truth is some people are selfish and stupid and are going to have kids that they treat badly and that is almost unavoidable. It doesnt take much to get pregnant, any jerk can do it.

All we can really do is treat our kids and our friends and family well. Bless all you foster parents too, I want to foster in a few years and eventually adopt an older child or three.

We are perfectly capable of having our own kids but I dont feel the need, I would rather help a child that already exists.

 

[WriterofWords]

The child isn't the mistake, the pregnancy is.

 

[fowltemptress]

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[Boyd]

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you missed the invisible letters?

till they figure out the opposite sex doesn't have cooties like I've been tellin them about for the past 15 years

 

[PeepsInc]

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When I was a new dad I use to say they should of come with owners manuals.

 

[TennesseeTruly]

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When we removed my grandson from his mother, he was 19 lbs, 2 years old, couldn't walk, couldn't talk. He had a diaper rash that was bleeding and was in a bedroom that was filled with dirty diapers in garbage bags, flies and maggots all over the place. In his crib were 6 bottles that were soured, lying in the crib with him.

The socks on his feet were black and soaking wet and when we peeled them off of him, his feet were stark white and looked like he had been sitting in them for hours? days? She was naked on a couch with her then boyfriend.

WE, my husband and I, walked into her home and removed this child. I told her, take parenting classes, go to counseling and you can have your son back. That was June 14, 2003. She has done nothing, nothing but cause this child harm from the day he was born.

The state of NY kept talking about unifying her with her son and we fought them tooth and nail. The state finally said no more when during an unsupervised visit that the courts allowed, her newest boyfriend put his hands on my grandson and called him retarded. THEN the state finally gave us sole custody but it took YEARS to prove her unfit.

As soon as we were able to, we left the state of NY, who after 2 years in prison, told her that she could visit him if she went to parenting classes. 6 classes, 6 weeks, she gets a certificate. State says okay, you can see him. And the same garbage started all over again.

We're in TN now and if she wants to take us to court, she has to come here. We thought distance was the answer. Well 866 miles away and she still causes him strife.

After all this, my husband and I have decided that this is the end of it. We're going to sever both of their parental rights and we'll adopt our grandson. We have given both parents more than enough time to "get it together". We're done. Oh, both have been ordered to pay child support. $25. a month. She pays, our son does not. They can keep their lousy $25.

Some people just done deserve to be parents.....period!

Laurie

 

[Legs]

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what she said

 

[fowltemptress]

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you missed the invisible letters?

till they figure out the opposite sex doesn't have cooties like I've been tellin them about for the past 15 years

I wish I'd been told they had cooties! I could have handled that. I was told boys would give me cancer by my loving, sweet grandmother. I would love to see a parenting class taught by her, it would be too funny.


Ooh, wait, I shouldn't say such things. She told me if I ever made fun of a grandparent my tongue would turn black and rot out of my head.

 

[Katy]

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You know you wouldn't trade any of those grandkids off!! The kids, maybe, but never the grandkids.

I guess no, they shouldn't have a license......any idiot can pass a test and get a license...isn't going to make them a better parent in the long run.

 

[Buff Hooligans]

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