Should parents need licences to be parents?

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In large scale that might be true, but alot adults my area believe in the opposite...and many of them haven't had it. maybe it's just the area..

Yeah... everyone in my area is basically still virgins, give or take a few.

Everyone in your area is a virgin? How does the population grow?

 

[seedcorn]

Parenting classes sound good but in reality are only good for how to change diapers, etc. If the parents don't have morals, ethics, common sense don't expect their offspring to. That's why it is so hard to break the cycle.

 

[mom'sfolly]

This has been an interesting discussion. Most people won't know if they have been good or bad parents until their children are adults...with the exceptions of the very bead parents. Education has little to do with parenting skill. I've known of well educated people (with advanced degrees) who would go out to breakfast with their toddlers sleeping at home.

My neighbor thinks I'm a bad parent because I allow my 8 and 12 year-olds to play unsupervised in my cul-de-sac. I think she is a bad parent because her child is never allowed outside. Who gets to decide which of us is a fit parent?

 

[seedcorn]

Education does not guarantee good parents. Related to a PHD who taught "lack of morals" to his kids. ON PURPOSE.

We'll never agree on what a good parent is, so keep government out of it unless children are getting physically hurt. Mentally hurt, who's to say. Some think religous beliefs are harming them, some think lack of are harming them. Who's to decide?

Personnally, catch a child molester in act, leave them for vultures to dine on.

 

[Egg_newton]

There should be some kind of test you should have to pass. I.Q.? basic common sense? Credit rating? to prove you are responsible and smart enough to take care of a kid properly. There are way too many people having babies with no intention to take care of them emotionally and financially.

 

[rebelcowboysnb]

Ya notice things about income keep being brought up. That in its self should tell you that its a bad idea.

 

[seedcorn]

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Do you think it's a bad idea to bring children into this world when you can't or won't provide the basics of life? I was brought up dirt poor but we always had the basics. Now if it means you have to buy designer jeans/play stations, etc.........then my kids were abused.

 

[rebelcowboysnb]

I never did without as a kid but we never had a dime. No income has never meant no food.

Pretty sure we had no credit score ether.

 

[PaulaJoAnne]

We must stop thinking that some government regulation is going to fix everything.

I am going to lay out here what my dh and i have been talking bout doing for some time.
And I would challenge each of you that wants to see change to do the same in your area.
Change only happens when we as individuals stand up and offer real help.

I have worked with teens off and on over a number of years, as they came through to volunteer in the commercial kitchen I was head of.
It was very disheartening to see the total lack of skills, other then the ability to gossip, rag on each other, hide from duties, and talk about shopping, boys/girls, fashion, video games and texting.

How many of you know more then 2 or 3 young people that can actually make out the menu for one meal, walk into the kitchen and prepare it? And I am not talking about opening a can of soup and a bag of noodles!

We want to make available in our community a way for young ladies to learn homemaking and good social skills.
Skills that are left out of the picture in the race to either do nothing and allow the government to pay their way by way of Welfare, or get a career.

Laundry
menu planning
vacuuming
dusting
dishes
organization in the home
budgeting
How to live without credit
small animal husbandry
gardening
Traditional cooking skills, ie., not using anything out of a box or bag
Bread making
basic sewing
Basic infant and child care ( to help with understanding that they are not cute dolls that you tote round with you)

Our young people have been had.
They have had basic natural nutriton taken from them. They have had basic family interation taken from them.
There health is suffering. Both physically and mentally.

Society has taken away any desire to marry earlier on. We are encouraged to wait till we are in our 30s. And to not have children till even later.
All this does is promote promiscuity and the ability to never grow up.

 

[PaulaJoAnne]

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Do you think it's a bad idea to bring children into this world when you can't or won't provide the basics of life? I was brought up dirt poor but we always had the basics. Now if it means you have to buy designer jeans/play stations, etc.........then my kids were abused.

LOL! Oh my, we were abused too! Thrift stores and sewing yoru own clothes, oh my!

I must say though, can't and won't are rather different. One can always find an honorable way to provide.
It just requires a good work ethic.