*sigh* I'm loosing my touch. (Warning: Hi-jacked by Em)

[Alaskan]

Well, we are trying, which is better than he came from.

It's just still a shock. A very cute, blessing, but also a shock.

Yep, agree completely.

 

[chicken scout]

baby quail hatched!!!!!!!!

it is so small hard to believe that it is a jumbo

 

[Alaskan]

baby quail hatched!!!!!!!! e it is so small hard to believe that it is a jumbo

Hummmmmm this makes me believe that you are awake..... And not in bed sleeping... Even though it is past your bedtime.....

Hummmmmmmmmmm


Disobedient boys get extra chores (evil cackle)

 

[Bunnylady]

Well, we are trying, which is better than he came from.

It's just still a shock. A very cute, blessing, but also a shock.

I will be praying for you, Em.

I have family members that have done the adoption dance, foster care, and/or had other dealings with the family court system, and their stories make me fear that you are in for a rough ride. I assume that by now you have/have had an appointment with a lawyer that specializes in family law? You will need one to help you navigate the murky and turbulent legal waters. Terry may find himself eating his words before long - you thought that horse was expensive? Oi.

I hope you have at least been able to get a judge to grant you temporary legal custody, since I've been led to understand that you can't even get a child treated in the Emergency Room unless you are their legal guardian.

For the sake of your own sanity, it may be better to think of Connor as a temporary house guest rather than a future family member, at least for the time being. Do you even know whether he's adoptable at this point? His mother may think she doesn't want him right now, but that isn't enough for the legal system. I've heard many first- and second-hand accounts of couples that have even been in the final stages of the adoption process, having spent sometimes years loving and nurturing a child, only to have their hopes dashed and their hearts broken by the 11th-hour appearance of a grandmother/aunt/cousin who gets the child instead. It's crazy how, often, nobody lifts a finger while the mother is struggling or even when the child is in foster care, but then someone can't stand the thought of the child being lost to the family forever through adoption. If you are at least related to the mother (or father), it helps, since the court almost always goes with the blood tie.

While it's easy to say, "guard your heart," it's not so easy to do. My mother was a foster parent to infants and toddlers when my older brother and I were small (my dad, too, of course - funny how I tend to overlook that

). Mom often had two babies at the same time, so she was looking after 4 kids under the age of 5 with an old ringer-on-the-top style washer. From our home, all of the children went to adoptive homes - that was something that my mother insisted on. Even though she knew they were only with us for a little while, my mother put her heart and soul into every one. And even though she knew they went from her arms into arms that were eagerly waiting to hold them and love them, for her, every time a child left, it was like a death. Somewhere in this world are a couple of dozen adults around age 50 that at one time my mother loved as only a mother can love, and they don't even remember her. She still thinks about them sometimes, and wonders how their lives have played out.

Like I said, praying for you.

 

[EmtheFishLady]

We have multiple lawyers on it. DCF is not involved, so family members do not get preference. We are doing a parent to parent adoption, so it is a much simpler process.

 

[chicken scout]

Hummmmmm

this makes me believe that you are awake..... And not in bed sleeping... Even though it is past your bedtime.....

Hummmmmmmmmmm


Disobedient boys get extra chores (evil cackle)

Hummmmmm

this makes me believe that you are awake..... And not in bed sleeping... Even though it is past your bedtime.....

Hummmmmmmmmmm


Disobedient boys get extra chores (evil cackle)

disobedient boys? were? were?

 

[Alaskan]

WHERE are the boys that WERE going to get head bonkies?

 

[sourland]

Boys, evade those head bonkies. Come to the moat barbecue party and swim with bluesub's lovelies. It will be the experience of your lifetime. Promise.

 

[Bunnylady]

Boys, evade those head bonkies. Come to the moat barbecue party and swim with bluesub's lovelies. It will be the experience of your lifetime. Promise.

Maybe the LAST experience of your lifetime.

 

[sourland]

Maybe the LAST experience of your lifetime.

Well, yes, that too.