*sigh* I'm loosing my touch. (Warning: Hi-jacked by Em)

[EmtheFishLady]

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One of these days I'm going to get off my duff and scan my drivers license in...just so you can all see the birth date.

 

[sourland]

Em, c'mon now - the whole world knows how easy it is to get fake ID.

 

[Ec_Prokta]

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Not sure I have a "Stance" really...It would be unfair of me to say ALL men who are friends with a woman just want something more...but many of them do. The safest thing to do is assume that your friends are not the exception to that rule. They might be, might just be really sweet guys who have zero interest in anything but being your friend...might even truly start out that way, but it usually leads to something more in my experience.

That being said, it's not impossible to be friends with men either. I have many male friends I absolutely adore, and would be lost without. My best friend is a man. We've been friends 10 or 11 years. He's a gentleman and is a very intelligent, kind person. He's also the prime example of what I'm talking about. We were very close for over a year when he told me he was in love with me. We even dated for awhile. Now we're back to being just friends, but his feelings are still the same and he makes it known. However, we still have a wonderful friendship, and I really don't know what I'd do without him in my life. He knows me better than I know myself at times.

So, while I have some friends who have never shown an interest in wanting more, many more of them have. It's just the way it is.

Romantic feelings can hit anyone at anytime about most anyone else. You can't help it.

Many of my most valued friendships are men. As far as I know, none of them save the one I mentioned have any such ideas about me,and even if they did, it wouldn't change how I felt about them, so I don't worry about it.

But. since you're a younger my advice is this...stay away from all boys. ALL OF THEM. Wear your bucket at all times. Watch out for tricky boys who might pretend to be around for other things...do you think boys go to school to learn? Absolutely not. They go to catch the unsuspecting, non-bucket wearing girls. So be careful. You most certainly do not want to become twitterpated. It's awful. I've enclosed a warning video made by my dear friend, Friend Owl.


It's vice versa for you boys too...so watch those tricky girls.

All right, I get where you're coming from.

However, what if I already have a fair amount of friends that are boys?

 

[EmtheFishLady]

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I typed all that out for nothing.

To be perfectly honest, I was always hanging out with the boys. I get along better with boys.

I think they're mostly more fun.

90% of my friends are male.

It's probably the brownies.

 

[EmtheFishLady]

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birth certificate?!?!

 

[sourland]

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birth certificate?!?!

Maybe we could have a vet check your teeth?

 

[Ec_Prokta]

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I typed all that out for nothing.

To be perfectly honest, I was always hanging out with the boys. I get along better with boys.

I think they're mostly more fun.

90% of my friends are male.

It's probably the brownies.

Ah, don't worry about it, it's still sound advice.

Me too!

And most of them really aren't interested in me for love purposes. Only two of them, and I've been trying to distance myself from both. Been working out pretty well so far.

 

[EmtheFishLady]

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birth certificate?!?!

Maybe we could have a vet check your teeth?

George! And to think I made a batch of brownies just for you!

Ec, just because someone has romantic feelings for you does not mean you must return them. It also doesn't mean distancing yourself is the only solution. My buddy, we'll call him HD, will still to this day tell me he has feelings for me, but it doesn't interfere with our friendship. We laugh and joke and talk for hours every day regardless. At 4 am if I can't sleep, I know I can call HD and he'll keep me entertained with Zombie Apocalypse scenarios or the latest geek technology or a political debate. The key to it is, neither of us let his feelings get in the way. It works well for me.

 

[Ec_Prokta]

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Maybe we could have a vet check your teeth?

George! And to think I made a batch of brownies just for you!

Ec, just because someone has romantic feelings for you does not mean you must return them. It also doesn't mean distancing yourself is the only solution. My buddy, we'll call him HD, will still to this day tell me he has feelings for me, but it doesn't interfere with our friendship. We laugh and joke and talk for hours every day regardless. At 4 am if I can't sleep, I know I can call HD and he'll keep me entertained with Zombie Apocalypse scenarios or the latest geek technology or a political debate. The key to it is, neither of us let his feelings get in the way. It works well for me.

Okay, that's a good tip. However, I feel that both of them are letting their feelings for me get in their way, especially one guy who, strangely enough, reminds me of Edward Cullen, AKA Sparkle Vampire Boy.

 

[eenie114]

Oooh, we're talking about boys who like us now?

My friend Ashton took it upon herself to... ENLIGHTEN me yesterday.

Ashton: Tessa, Emma and I were talking.

Me, painting a ceiling: Oh?

Ashton: Max likes you.

Me: *Falls off of bucket* Say what?!

We're talking the uber-short, uber-geeky, year younger than me, needs-a-haircut-in-a-desperate-way boy in JROTC who is like a cross between a little brother and a puppy and who I'm pretty sure is high-functioning OCD. Not that there's anything wrong with OCD, I'm just saying.

SAVE ME!!

(And yes, I was standing on a bucket instead of wearing it, since there were no males around and I couldn't reach.

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