Signs of a Child Molestor/Sexual Predator

[Dar]

Sorry did not mean to kill the conversation
thank you silly

 

[ArizonaNessa]

One thing I tell people all the time that want to know how to keep their children safe is this. Not only should you have the stranger danger talk but for the love of all things good take those silly little stick figure things off your cars folks. It may seem harmless but when you have a figure for each of your family members with their names underneath each one you have done nothing but inform would be predators of all the right things to say to your child to abduct them.

Example: Hi suzy! Your mommy Kathy told me to pick up you and your little brother Johnny from the bus because she is out looking for your little dog Rover and will be back home soon. Just come with me Suzy.

That person is no longer a stranger in your childs eyes because the monster seems to them to know everyone in your family including what your mom's car looks like and everyones name. I tell my son that if he can't see me or daddy then you don't go to the car or house or talk to them period, EVER!

 

[Camelot Farms]

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And while scraping off the stick people, take off the football decal with your child's uniform number and name on it and the cheer leader horn decal with your daughters name and school colors too. Dont forget to get the ones on grandma's vehicle too...

 

[jilld]

these are such sad threads...i am so sorry for what you have been through,this is a parents worst nightmare and i feel deaply for you.the world as it is today makes us overprotective of our children,we need to try to get the balance right.
we need to teach are children stranger danger we also need them to be open with us,i sit chatting with mine about the day,its kinda like a cross examination but i do it in such a way that its just a good old chat with nosey mum,and all i can do is hope that if they are uncomfortable with anything that has happened in the day,or worried about anything they will talk to me about it,or i will notice something is up.

 

[Abby's mom]

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And while scraping off the stick people, take off the football decal with your child's uniform number and name on it and the cheer leader horn decal with your daughters name and school colors too. Dont forget to get the ones on grandma's vehicle too...

WOW i may be sheltered but i would never in a million years put the names of my children or grandchildren on my car

i was not aware people were still doing this.. i thought this sort of thing went away in the 80's when the iron on names on t shirts went taboo

 

[cassie]

Just a comment. Teaching your kid to be overly paranoid about strangers isn't a really good idea either because she may find herself in an emergency situation where she is dependent on the kindness of strangers. Just teach her to be aware of her surroundings and that if something feels creepy to her it probably is. There is a lot of publicity about the dangers of strangers, but statistically a child is far more likely to be molested by Uncle Harry than Herbert the Pervert who lives down the road. Child molesters do not have a bell around their neck. It is very difficult to identify them.

Case in point. When I was a very young teenager there was a man in our neighborhood who was very friendly with young teenagers, particularly girls, of which I was one. He just liked to be around them for whatever reason. We could always go to him and talk to him about things we wouldn't dare ask our parents, like sex and how to kiss, advice about boyfriends, etc. Kids were always in and out of his house, and no, I don't think our parents knew. In fact, this man had a lot of the earmarks of a pedophile. But he wasn't. He never made an improper move on any of us. Ever. The man who did try to molest me was a trusted family friend and I never told a soul about it until long after I was an adult. And then only after I found out he had a habit of molesting his five daughters. They never told anyone either and their mother did not have a clue. When she did find out, quite by accident, she divorced him immediately.

 

[Whirlwind]

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Its tough you want to inform her but don't scare her to much. I would tell her anytime someone does something,anything that makes her uncomfortable to tell you. That she can always tell you anything and never to be afraid to tell you no matter what anyone else says. Mainly I think talk to her. My parents never talked about anything. Talking is the key to keeping her informed and safer. Never think it can't happen to you. It is almost always someone you and she knows and trusts.
If someone grabs her to scream and kick and bite them. Teach her to use her gut instint. I think it is usually right.
Mainly talk, talk, talk and keep the comunication open.

 

[cafarmgirl]

Your husband really is leaving himself wide open to all kinds of accusations by hugging strangers children, or any children that aren't his own. It only takes one comment by any of these kids, perceived by an adult as a little "off", for him to find himself in a lot of trouble. I have kids and I know how I would react if I caught a stranger hugging one of them. Shoot, just recently my husband and I got the stink eye from a woman because my husband responded with "Hi" to her little boy who had said Hi to him in passing on the sidewalk. Imagine if he'd have hugged him!

 

[ArizonaNessa]

Abby's mom :

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And while scraping off the stick people, take off the football decal with your child's uniform number and name on it and the cheer leader horn decal with your daughters name and school colors too. Dont forget to get the ones on grandma's vehicle too...

WOW i may be sheltered but i would never in a million years put the names of my children or grandchildren on my car

i was not aware people were still doing this.. i thought this sort of thing went away in the 80's when the iron on names on t shirts went taboo​

Nope it's not gone and everytime I go to the grocery store I see at least 4 or 5 cars with happy little stick figures all in a line with each and every name under each one. It absolutely drives me bonkers. I want to leave little notes explaining what they have done to endanger their families but I don't cause they would probably put me in jail for some weird law about leaving notes on cars or something.

 

[EweSheep]

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Exactly my thoughts! I do not want that to happen no matter how he interpret how it would look like even his actions are harmless and is of no threat to me or my DD or any of my relatives kids but I did get some "stink eye" from some moms which it is the language that we all women (and some men if they can read it) are aware of.

I will check into the programs for my DD which I think it is so necessary. The problem with this program is that they only do one school per year.

However they did indicate some books for her to read "Its my body" and I am going to check it out from my library and read it to her.

On the side note, I was sexually molested when I was seven or eight years old by the babysitter's friend, a total stranger, an old man with coveralls. He did say come and give me a kiss and when I refused, he grabbed me and kissed me rather slobberily (UGH!) and groped my body all over. After I fought him off, I was suddenly confused why he did it to me. Then he told me not to tell my parents or they will be dead. I never did. So fast forward when I was a teenager watching the 20/20 show about sexual predators, I confronted my parents about it and they were shocked! They had NO idea of the situation and they did know why I was upset everytime I went there until I demanded another babysitter which I was so happy being there with her other kids. Then I went back to the old babysitter and I cried or walked sooooooo slowly from school, so it would be the least amount of time staying there until my mother got off from work. Looking back, I could have killed that SOB for doing it to me but wished many times my parents would have talked to me what is wrong or felt wrong or violated if you may. I had a deep mistrust toward old men with coveralls (even nice farmers fit in that category even they never did any harm to me).

That is why all this raises red flags and wanted something to do for my DD so she would not go thru what I went thru. No predator should instill fear in my DD NOT to tell parents regardless of what possible intention the predator may say to her. (shudder)

Never in my thoughts the names of childrens would be a no no! I thought it would signify PROUD PARENTS! and they wanted to show off how bright their kid is or how active in sports their kids are in. I did not realize that it would be a helpful tool for predators!

If hubby thinks he can not get into trouble or get into trouble, a lecture will do him in or have a cop sit down with him and tell him that it only takes ONE kid to take it the wrong way and they do take it seriously. Yeah it might embarass him the wrong way but it takes ONE time! I do not know what kind of parent would call wolf on him or many parents would simply remove their kids from him or anyone else (like I would). ONE TIME! He is an EMT and many times those kid friendly attitude helps a panicky kid in a crisis is helpful and soothing to moms that get all upset to see their kids in accidents. He would get the moms involved such as holding the kids hand or feet to assure them that their moms are there with them while he does the vitals, etc. etc. Those things can be helpful but other times, it would be a no no even if you are an off duty police officer (yes we do have one police officer the next town to us just recently charged for molesting a teenager!). So no one from any gov't branch, medical branch or religious clerks are safe from kids. UGH!

Obviously no one really knows how safe we and our kids really are!!! Scary thoughts!