Slander and Libel....update and ending on post 77.

[lockedhearts]

CF, Before you rock the boat, make sure you tightly secure MIL in the boat and that way when you rock it enough to tip it over.......... I'm just sayin'..........

 

[WriterofWords]

I think DH needs to stop worrying about rocking the boat and defend his wife. Confront her over it, do it nicely at first "Hi, how have you been? I wanted to ask you something, you are not going to believe what I heard that you've been doing to me! I just had to call and ask you myself because I'm sure you wouldn't do something like and risk the kind of lawsuit you know I would pursue against something like that." See where it goes from there. Be tough and get your DH motivated too, he shouldn't worry about rocking the boat, he should worry about your honor and his too since it's his kids you guys are neglecting allegedly.

Edited for spelling, I'm tired on drugs,, I fell out by the coop in a dirt bath hole and landed on my rodeo knees and my wrist that has had 3 reconstructions.. I'm in pain,,

 

[geebs]

Writer of words... Well put!!!! Although the boat analogy has merit also

 

[Elite Silkies]

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I just printed out the definition of Slander and Libel and the NY laws pertaining to them. I will be putting them in the mail to her tomorrow. No note, no letter, nothing for her to sink her teeth into.
Maybe for fun I wont even mail them from here.

ooooH! Maybe I could send them to a BYCer in EVERY state and you all could just pop them in the mail from your zipcode.

Wouldnt that just blow her mind?

Bahh hhha haaa.

Seriously... any takers?

Send me a copy, I'll do it!!

She needs to sweat a little in my opinion. In laws, some you love, some you don't.

 

[Camelot Farms]

Good morning everyone!

Today is a new day and in the light of this new day, I am a bit calmer and hopefully a bit wiser. All of your posts last night were awesome. Some of them just plain cracked me up!

I think that my best plan of action at this point is to just make sure that my friends and family back home run a little damage contro if they hear any of this trash. Giving her any sort of response only fuels the fires and gives her more incentive to keep it up.

I imagine that being ignored will be the most painful thing for her and the least painful thing for me. As someone told me last night....my true friends and family know that none of that could possibly be true and anyone who doesnt know me and hears this...doesnt really matter anyways.

DH is totally on board and he will be calling his Dad today and letting him know what is going on so that he understands why we are dropping her like a hot potato. He will understand that this is in the best interest of our family and then if he decides to call her out on her behavior then so be it. DH may at some point decide she deserves a phone call and a tongue lashing, but I truly think that the most painful thing for her will be to be ignored and sit there wondering what is going on down here. *insert evil grin*. It'll drive her nuts wondering about the CPS call and what all came of it!!!

Thanks again BYCers. As always ...YOU ROCK!

 

[sourland]

Well thought out decision. Don't feed her fires. Sounds like she's an attention seeker, and ignoring her plus damage control may be the best action. Not sure I could have reacted as maturely as you.

 

[TriciaHowe]

LOL! Sorry I just thought this picture was too funny! Reminded me of your situation....

 

[Elite Silkies]

I think your plan will work out great! Keep us up to date about what is going on

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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Thankfully, I do have the proof. The client who she said these things to has put them in writing and I have them in front of me. If I decide to go forth with a slander/libel suit, she has agreed to testify.

All of the things that this past client told me...there is no way that she could have made them up. She didnt know I had a horse barn. Heck she didnt even know which state I had relocated to. So she couldnt be just causing trouble. =/ I almost wish she could be...

You need to contact your ex-step MIL's employer. I STRONGLY doubt that they will tolerate this kind of behavior, especially since it sounds as if they were also your former employer. There are SIGNIFICANT fines and liabilities for slander/libel of former employees (most large companies have not been willing to do anything more than acknowledge that a former employee did indeed work there from X date to Y date--no recommendations for or against the individual whatsoever), and she has exposed THE COMPANY to those penalties. I would be calling up an attorney within the next few days; this behavior is NOT acceptible.


Okay, all of that said, is it at all possible that she is having some sort of mental health, drug, medical problems that have brought on changes that would make her think what she is saying is true? There are some forms of alzheimers that strike early on--she is not too young for that.

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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Not even a real MIL--a step MIL who divorsed from FIL TWENTY YEARS AGO.