Rustyswoman...I think she would be willing to do that. She is pretty tore up over the whole thing.
I am hoping that like with all 'playground bullies', once she realizes that I am so not like the other SIL's and I wont go quietly into the night that she will just move on to the next victim. I think that the fact that I have just shut her out of my life and that of my children (not that there was any close knit ties there), and shown her that I have no fear of heading straight to her Superiors, will give her pause about continuing the battle.
I also plan to call the worker that came out on the bogus CPS report and let her know that MIL is spreading nasty little rumors and that I understand that she will have to follow up on any additional calls that may come in but want to give her a heads up about the drama so she isnt stunned if more come in. She is very sweet and has been fabulous through this whole nightmare. We actually ended up getting some great services for DD that we needed but couldnt get on our own and she got them paid for so we have no out of pocket expense. So, in fairness, MIL's little plot actually helped me....wouldnt that just jerk her chain?
I will check in with the client and see if she would put her statement in writing and have it notarized so that I have it if we should need it. Thanks for the idea!
I am glad I was able to give some advice that might help. It is better to have it and not use it than to try and get it later if you need it.
Good wishes for you, and I am happy that some good has come out of it for you and your DD. Sorry you have to deal with this, what a shock it must have been.
Been there, done that, just in a different form and it sure hurts. There is no way to do damage control completely because you have no idea of the vast spread of who was told. Funny though how it comes around eventually and the giver of crap gets theirs! Be a good example and hold your head high. That will speak for itself.
Just a quick update. Well, when you think that things cant get any more bizarre...
So, I sent MIL a certified letter...here it is...
Please find enclosed New York States laws and regulations pertaining to Slander and Defamation of Character.
If you are unable to interpret them, I suggest that you contact an attorney and have them assist you.
I have contacted an attorney in the area and should there be any further breach of the law as it pertains to
Slander and Character Defamation, she will immediately commence filing suit.
This letter also serves as notice that any future contact from you to either myself or my minor children is unwanted and unnecessary.
This includes all forms of communication including electronic and third party contact.
Thank you for your appreciation of the seriousness of this matter. I trust that there will be no future need for legal intervention.
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I liked it. Guess she didnt, cause I get a text from SIL last night telling me to never contact her again.
No problem. We dont talk only twice a year anyways. I hardly think I will die of longing...
Then this morning DH gets a message on his voicemail. SIL (age 26, unmarried) in hysterics. No exageration. Hysterics! He can barely make out what she is saying through the sobbing. But he manages to
make out that he is never supposed to contact her again or see her again.
I am soooo confused. How did my letter to MIL from me and only me end up with SIL freaking out at DH. Needless to say...not a word from MIL.
At least she took the hint.
Hopefully the saga ends here and MIL finds new people to torment and harass.
Thanks again for all of your thoughts and prayers.
Why would SIL be in Hysterics? She is not related to Step-MIL either is she? This Evil-conniving-beast-Step-Mother-In-Law is a real piece of work! Good Luck!!