Slander and Libel....update and ending on post 77.

[redhen]

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Good idea!..get it notorized and send it in to her boss!!!!!!.... i'd try to get her fired...
she didnt care about having your kids ripped from you. The nasty....

 

[thaiturkey]

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Good move - go straight to the top!

I guess that her employers will have to act so be prepared for a reaction from her. If my estimate of her mental state is correct she suffers from paranoia and would blame you for her troubles if she was disciplined or sacked. She may attack you directly or, if she guesses who told you what she was doing, go for that person.

The advice to get an affidavit from witnesses is good. Best do it before she tries to nobble them if you can.

You might also consider telling social services that you have taken action against a false informant and may well be asking for a statement from their chief. Do the laws of your country entitle you to see any record in which your name is mentioned?

 

[TeaKettleK]

NICE letter!! Are you sending them certified mail? Well worth the few extra coins to have proof that they actually GOT the letters.

..."I never received any warning letter." would be a valid defense, right?

 

[ScoobyRoo]

I may have missed the post but did you do anything lately to pi$$ her off? Did you not send her a Christmas card or Birthday card?

Sorry you have to put up with this nonsense. Hopefully you will scare her straight. Good luck

 

[thaiturkey]

Henry'schickens :

I may have missed the post but did you do anything lately to pi$$ her off? Did you not send her a Christmas card or Birthday card?

Sorry you have to put up with this nonsense. Hopefully you will scare her straight. Good luck

It's possible that she has harboured a grudge about some imagined injustice or hurt for a long time. It may be jealousy and no more than that. No-one could ever guess what it is and would be gobsmacked at her twisted logic if ever she said. Or, perhaps, she just makes up stories on the spot to gain attention, sympathy or credibility.​

 

[babylady4]

Boy oh boy; can all of you come to MY job and take care of the evil person I work with as well???

You are getting some GREAT advice, do all of the letters and follow-ups; in other words C.Y.A.!

What a psycho nut-job! She is darn lucky you live as far away as you do!

 

[thaiturkey]

Just for fun, look at this check list and then think about troublesome people that you have known:

http://www.mcafee.cc/Bin/sb.html

It's written by a non-professional but if you want expert comment, try Wiki:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antisocial_personality_disorder

This information helps to explain some of this dysfunctional behaviour - but not excuse it.

 

[GaNewChick]

This is just my opinion ... we don't know you, your husband, MIL, or client. Based on those facts, I would have to say that you've been given poor advice. I think your quote pretty much sums it up. Best of luck with this situation.

I imagine that being ignored will be the most painful thing for her and the least painful thing for me. As someone told me last night....my true friends and family know that none of that could possibly be true and anyone who doesnt know me and hears this...doesnt really matter anyways.​

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

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This isn't enough. You need to very clearly state that her conduct while on the job is THEIR business, and THEY are responsible if she is slandering. You need to specifically tell them what you want: for them to intervene to prevent this from happening ever again, that you will hold THEM accountable if it does. Don't talk around the topic. Tell them exactly what happened, although you do not need to go into the detail of the lies.

Something along the lines of:
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Dear Ms Regional Director:
As you recall, I worked for _______________ Department from ___________ to _____________. Several days ago a former client sent me a rather disturbing message. She went to lengths to find a way to contact me as we have not been in touch since I left ___(department).

Her new ____________ (whatever mil's position is) was visiting her for the first time. In the course of small talk conversation to establish a relationship, my name came up as the client's previous ___ counselor. ____________(mil's name) began to spew forth all manner of lies and slanderous statements about me. This is unacceptable and unprofessional. I want _____________(mil) held accountable for her actions, and I want this to never happen again. Please let me know what corrective measures you have undertaken.
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It's up to you as to whether you inform them of your relationship with mil or not.

 

[Camelot Farms]

Henry'schickens :

I may have missed the post but did you do anything lately to pi$$ her off? Did you not send her a Christmas card or Birthday card?

Sorry you have to put up with this nonsense. Hopefully you will scare her straight. Good luck

LOL. Nope. But SHE never sends cards or gifts at the kids birthdays or holidays, not even phone calls to them.
She is just a DQ...drama queen. Things must have been boring in her world so she needed to stir things up a bit. She always has someone targeted, this is just the 1st time that its been me.

She is annoyed with DH as she stirred up some things around the holidays and he has been a bit distant with her. He thinks that in her version of reality that it must be MY fault that he is not playing up to her. After all, it couldnt be HER fault.