Slander and Libel....update and ending on post 77.

[redhen]

Ha! Good! Sounds like you nailed it! Dont worry about the SIL drama...too bad if she doosent like it. SHES not the one that had CPS called on her....she has no clue...

 

[thaiturkey]

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It's probably the case that MIL believes your threats are serious and she is close to being sued. However, her character is such that she cannot leave it at that. She feels powerless suddenly. She probably knows how to influence SIL who may be a weaker character and has bullied her into cutting off you and your husband. It's a ploy, of course, to hit back at you and perhaps get you to react.

I suggest that the right course of action is that you and your husband do not respond to SIL. If she is capable of getting into such as state and cut you both off without asking for your side of the story then she isn't worth bothering with. Things will calm down in time and I guess that you and hubby need some peace and quiet now. Ignore the mind games but keep records of what the two of them do from now on. For a while MIL may see how close she can get to the line without crossing it in the hope that you will respond. She may even try to get you or your husband to act in such away that she would have a defence in Court. Do nothing other than initiate Court action if that is what you eventually decide to do.

I hope that this episode is soon behind you.

 

[Anianna]

I'm glad to hear CPS is being good to you and I think your letter was fantastic. I congratulate you on your excellent handling of a bad situation. I hope the SIL can settle down and see the truth of the matter. Good luck!

 

[WriterofWords]

Then this morning DH gets a message on his voicemail. SIL (age 26, unmarried) in hysterics. No exageration. Hysterics! He can barely make out what she is saying through the sobbing. But he manages to
make out that he is never supposed to contact her again or see her again.

I am soooo confused. How did my letter to MIL from me and only me end up with SIL freaking out at DH. Needless to say...not a word from MIL.
At least she took the hint.

In other words she was instructed not to have contact with your DH as a way to put a wedge between the two of you without doing it directly.​

 

[CityChicker]

The MIL probably said something to the SIL to turn her against you, like that you said something about her or tried to do something to her. It is so manipulative. Why else would the SIL be in hysterics? Surely not over a letter sent just to the MIL. There has to be something more to it (unless there are multiple crazy people involved).

The MIL sounds like she has some sort of personality disorder. I had a "friend" for many years that was constantly orchestrating dramas between other people. Whenever you would have a serious fight with the individual, the next day you would get a phone call from someone else furious about something you supposedly did or said about them (always completely crazy, totally made up stuff). It is the manipulators way of keeping you sucked into the drama (and trying to hurt you) when you are not in direct contact with them. It is really crazy behavior. It took me years to get swift to it.

 

[buck-wild-chick]

Subscribed.

 

[Camelot Farms]

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I think you nailed it! My only request of DH in this entire matter was that he contact FIL and let him know what had happened to precipitate this mess. I knew that SIL would head over there if she heard about the letter. FIL shared with DH that this is one of the many reasons that they are divorced. He said it was always drama, drama, drama. And then he confirmed that he had heard 'something' along the lines of me being too lazy to work.

Craziness!

 

[Camelot Farms]

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In other words she was instructed not to have contact with your DH as a way to put a wedge between the two of you without doing it directly.

You are a wise woman!

And I am sure that MIL would never directly instruct SIL, but she knows how to plant the seed and as I have often thought...
The apple does not fall far from the tree in this situation

**wondering if you can be born addicted to drama?**

 

[Camelot Farms]

Thai... exactly! Even though I am here on BYC chatting about the drama, in 'real life', we are not reacting to it. Not gabbing about it to anyone that we know....nothing.

As a matter of fact, the only ones out there that even know what she did regarding Slander and Defamation are she and I, DH and the client that contacted me.
And of course that is part of the loss of control that she is feeling because she cant react to what I am talking about without revealing it herself. Thus...the lies and stories that she is telling SIL and whoever else is caught in her evil web.

If I couldnt come here and vent I would be tempted to react to her chaos. So, I truly am greatful for this outlet and for all of you!

Have a fabulous day everyone. I am heading to the garden to get some more 'stuff' in the ground. Taters and onions on the agenda for today